Pls no hurtful comments!
I have noticed a pattern in me and I want to change it…it’s like when I first start liking someone, i am this energetic person…eager to spend time with them…know them…and I am a listener and good at reading people…so in a few months time, I have the other person figured out completely…it’s like I can write on a stamp paper what his reactions and thought would be to a given situation…once this happens I loose interest in that person…and then the story continues
I understand this is not how relationship works…but what should I do to myself to get rid of this pattern or behaviour…I have understood the problem but not able to figure out a solution!
Ameer Shaikh @ameer_shaikh
Love is not something that happnes…love happens automatically only for the first time…its we who have to constantly water for it to grow…love is not a feeling but a way of living and habits
Basically I suck at commitment thing…even if I do get committed but how I do bring that interest back?? And also I am bad at faking things…so it’s like if that person is making a joke, I won’t even be able to fake a laugh to show i am interested…my face would give it out.
It’s just I don’t wanna hurt anymore people due to my shortcomings
Ameer Shaikh @ameer_shaikh
Then y are you clinging the idea of being in a relationship, just enjoy different company and friends, just be sure that you dont hurt any guy by this, u have to be clear in the first…make frndship, u dont have to be in a romantic relationship
I do want to get married and settle down with one person in a year or two…so taking this into account, my next relationship would probably be end game and I don’t wanna screw that up!
Ameer Shaikh @ameer_shaikh
Dont burden yourself with such expectations…just aim on vibing together and enjoy life!
A bit difficult for me bt I can try!
Would you like to connect?
People change over time. So there’s that. How mcuh ever you figure out someone meet them after a few months ,you’d be surprised to see.
I guess that would work in friendship but not in romantic relationship…i don’t think I can ask for a few months break every few months😅
You do raise a very pertinent question. Imo.
One way I unlearned this way of thought is to delve deep into human behaviour.specifically Ethnography.
It’s been just 6-7 days but I’m mind blown officially. There are so many nuances to whatever people do individually or even as a group that it’s literally very hard to do it all in a matter of months or years. Maybe you can see more of that.
Know it all*