One night, all of a sudden I receive a call around 3am and my aunt informed my flatmate that my father expired due to cardiac arrest. I used to stay in a pg then and I honestly don’t remember how I came back to my hometown which is a 10hr long drive from my workplace… since I’m the oldest of my 2 siblings the responsibility of them fell on me… I have barely earning 30k a month at that time but still I managed to get things done and luckily I was asked to work from onsite location for a year where I saved enough and become financially stable. The thing is since the moment I started earning I’ve only been saving money (my father expired within few months of me joining work) and supporting my family. I see my friends around me who spend on themselves and go on these vacations. Even I feel like going but I can’t since I have to save for my wedding now. Is it okay to feel frustrated at times? And wish that you didn’t have to support your family? Am I being a bad person by saying it out loud? I don’t want to support them sometimes… I just wish they grow soon and get jobs to help me share the expenses
Riya Ghosh @riyaghosh
No man, you are not being a bad person by saying it loud. It is just ur feelings. And there is nothing wrong in expressing feeling. Ok,so you don’t want to support your family, but did you think how much ur family did for you. And if you don’t support your family, then how will your family survive. Obviously ur mother at this can’t go out and work. Don’t be selfish and remember that now it is ur dutie to paid them off. Hope you understand.
No no… not being selfish! I’m just tired I guess… but yes! I understand, it is my duty just these few days i feel tired and want to do something for myself but I guess that’s being selfish…may be I’m ! I honestly don’t know now
Riya Ghosh @riyaghosh
And also feeling sorry about how much you are suffering.
Shikhar @shikharchaurasiya
Hi
What you told tells how couragious you are
What you feel tells how deep your heart is
You are not frusted cause of your responsibilities to your family
The thoughts of others enjoyging might make you vulnerable to sadness
The path you are on is the right path
You save for your family and that’s all what matters… SUPREME
I belive a break is just what you need, and spending from some of your savings don’t make you bad…
Thankyou so much! Yes, you’re right! Everyday I see people buying these expensive things for themselves and going on fancy vacations while I save for my siblings fee… but as rightly pointed, it’s my duty and I can’t run away from that… just few days i get tired and feel this way. Thanks a lot for understanding and making me feel human for feeling this
As per me when any situation comes up suddenly we honestly don’t know how to react over that situation…and as the result we feel frustrated …but those emotions are not good for our own health…all you have to do is just make your self better and i believe you can definitely do it…see it just a phase of our life… sometimes we feel frustrated sometimes happy…but all i want to say we have to become like that those emotions won’t control us…we can be better by just dealing with the issues which bother us…and its not being a bad person it just you say what you feel…i hope you get what im saying
Yes, yes! I do! Thanks a lot for your kind words. It sure helps to know that you’re being understood rather than judged
vishika @1403
yes,it’s alright i understand your concern sometimes it’s okay to be selfish
cuzz you cannot be availiable to anyone all the time
you have to think about yourself too for a while
so i would just suggest you to take a break and go on a vacation
safe money for yourself too and then continue doing savings for your family
but yes take a break
thankyou for sharing
Sure. I’ve been suggested to take a vacation by quite a few people on this platform. I’ll surely think about it and try to execute it. I hope it would help. Thankyou for your kind words
vishika @1403
yes,sorry for your sufferings
we all are here to help you out
you are not alone💓
You are not a bad person saying it out or not a bad siblings you are just sharing whatever you feel and that’s okay I am so sorry that happened to you and I hope everyone heals from it and longing for that vacation and enjoyment is not selfish it’s rather something you deserve for working so hard and keeping everyone happy around you♥️
