Okay so I met a guy when I was in 7th grade, back then i didnt ike talking to boys at all but this guy was an exception.He was short and cute, he used to call me sis and make me laugh.so I started talking to him.By the end of 10th grade we got really close. I used to tie him rakhi every year. but in 11th and 12th we could’nt meet atleast once since,he was in hostel.He even got disappointed that i did’nt tie him rakhi that two years. during those two years he was in a really dark phase. so was I, but I got help from psychologist and I got better.but he refused to see doctor. even though it wasnt easy I kept talking to him frequently as I could’nt leave him alone in that phase cause he was only talking to me and his other two guy friends.Coming to engineering he was getting better and day by day we grew closer to eachother and without my knowledge I got so used to him, I became emotionally dependent on him.He started to become possessive.and he used to take my every word so seriously. My little words and acts would effect him a lot. I got really scared, so I tried to stop talking to him but after few weeks we ended up talking to eachother again, we could’nt resist.And now in engineering third year he proposed me knowing that I dont have feelings for him and i dont believe in love or relationships at all.so i said no.and now we stopped talking,its been 5 days and really miss him a lot and I want to talk to him, but if I do that he might think I’m selfish.I really dont know what to do.I dont have clarity on how I feel about him anymore, I obviously dont have any romantic feelings towards him at all but I think emotionally I do a lotttt!!what do I do now?And I know he would treat me very good and how special I’m too him.He is mad about me and that is what scares me the most sometimes.
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I think you should give him some time and if you guys meet or talk to each other explain him your feelings don’t keep your feelings in your heart tell him everything and make things clear with him . Make him understand what you feel and think and at the same time understand what he feels. Universe bless you, take care . All the best
rayofhope @radh
Make him realise how special and long lasting can a friendship bond be. If you guys start dating and then eventually some day end up breaking that relationship, there’s a chance that things might get ugly and awkward between you two. But in a bond like friendship, there’s no or little chance of any such thing. Make him feel secure about you, spend some more time. Not talking to each other can’t be a solution to this bcoz both of you will end up feeling isolated and these many years of friendship can leave a great impact. Tell him, you’ll be with him no matter what and that doesn’t need a tag like gf and bf.
