Mx Shay @sxkurxchxn
Okayā¦ so I had A LOT to say
been a REALLY long time since Iāve been on here
Soā¦ me and K are now dating- like- itās official
Soā¦ I asked her to ask her sister if sheās heterosexist or not or she just doesnāt like me thatās why she doesnāt āapproveā of us
So long story short- Her sister isnāt exactly heterosexist but she has this fantasy world where K (my girlfriend- feels so nice saying that) would have two cute kids, a dog, and a āhotā husband.
Aaaand she doesnāt want us dating because she wants k to like boys- I told K to tell her, that it doesnāt matter what gender you marry, as long are youāre happy. She doesnāt want to tell her- cause idk itās awkward i guess?
donāt really know what to do about that- if yāall have any advice please comment
Soā¦rn Iām really fucking pissed and Iām crying
Some guy who is apparently Kās friend told her that he liked her and then she say she didnāt feel the same way-
Then apparently he started saying ādirty stuffā to her
Now keep in mind Iām 13 and K is 14. And Idk what this ādirty stuffā is because k wouldnāt tell me cause she found it awkward to tell that to her girlfriend
I told her itās fine- because sheās just going to quote what he said
but she still wouldnāt tell me
So the least I could imagine is him saying that he wants to kiss her and the worst I can imagine is him sexualizing her- like BACK THE FUCK OFF YOU AāHOLE-
Then K tells me āitās fineā āheās a friendā, āI donāt mindā, āItās not like Iām going to do that with himā
which clearly tells me that she doesnāt understand the gravity of the situation.
ITāS FUCKING SEXUAL HARRASMENT, ITāS ILLEGAL
she still continues to think Iām overreacting, and that heās a friend so itās fine
like- wtf?
and it is so stressful that she lets people treat her like absolute shit- You deserve better than that- and there I go crying again
I DONāT LIKE IT. I DONāT LIKE IT ONE BIT. Itās frustrating to not be able to do anything, to just sit there and have the person you love say āitās okayā ITāS NOT FUCKING OKAY, ITāS NOT!
Even if she thinks itās okay, and isnāt effected by it. It pains me to know that several women go through this everyday. Like men think they can just fucking treat whoever they want however?
I have so many things to say but If I do this would be way longer than itās supposed to be.
So if anyone knows what to doā¦ please tell meā¦
hey queen first of yāall are minors so the thing happening with your girlfriend is a cyber crime and K is clearly not comfortable with it. You need to make her realise what he did is absolutely not ok. My advice would be first tell the guy to stop and if he keeps at it threaten to tell this to a parent, usually they stop when things get serious. And if he is still persistent take some serious action. Now coming to K not telling you what he said, I get that she is uncomfortable but open conversation is very important in a relationship, she need not be ashamed of sharing this with you as Iām sure you wonāt judge. Kās sister seems to have already made up her mind so Iād suggest educating her and talk to and ask her perspective as to why only a het couple is normal, then explain to her how yāall feel, Iām sure sheāll understand. And even after all this she doesnāt then youāve tried your best and Iām proud of you for that.
Lastly I get what you mean when you said you like calling her my girlfriend, in the end of the day that is what makes everything worth it calling someone you love your own.
I wish K and you the best.
So sorry S. I just got something to say to this person. So i just want to say some few things. I think you remember meš. Iām that weirdo.
I just need to say. Iām sorry. For whatever reasons you just stopped. Iām sorry. If i scared you by something i said or if i did anything wrong. I wonāt approach you anymore. You wonāt have to say anything.
Iām just happy that you are okay. It was bothering me a bit.
Anyhow it was good untill it lasted .
I didnāt get to say goodbye though. So take care of yourself. Iām so sorry if i had done anything wrong. It was a pleasure to meet you.
Iāll always remember you because of that slumber party song š¤£.
I get attached to people easily this is why i am saying it here. Be successful. Donāt be afraid of dogs anymore and ummm. Okay nothing else.
Sorry for bothering you again. Iām not a psychoš„ŗ.
Bye bye
Mx Shay @sxkurxchxn
Thank you sooo much for the adviceee <3
Uwuuuuuu. First of all. If you remember me. Iām that girl who wemt through all of your posts to trynna figure these alphabets. And Iām so freaking happy to see you guys dating. š
Now next to that fucking piece of shit saying dirty stuffs to your girl.
First you have to take her in confidence that itās not just because you are jealous but because itās really wrong.
Now second i think she already knows that itās not . She just doesnāt wanna make a big deal out of it. Which i totally understand. I have been there.
Just do one thing. Tell her to block him from everywhere and Make sure he wonāt be able to contact him anymore. It would satisfy both of you.
Also if he goes forward like still trynna talk to her or anything. Reach out to your parents or sum. If not threaten him that you would complaint about him. And itās a cyber crime.
I hope things will not get escalated that much.
Now one advice . My budd. You have to make her understand these things. Iām glad that you understood things in such young age.
Tell her that no matter what she doesnāt deserve to be treated that way. And she doesnāt have to be scared or anything.
Whatās wrong is wrong.
I hope you guys will figure it out and it will be okay. Also donāt fume up inside. Calm down yourself and communicate with her in a way that she would understand.
Lots of love to both of you
Mx Shay @sxkurxchxn
Thank you soooooooooooooooo much for your advicee
