Okay so here is my story and i need some advice from u guy who been through long distance relationship.
So we’ve been staying in long distance relationship for 7 months now. It was quite easy back then because we both had online class and keep calling each other. And now I have to study here online and he has to back to campus. He needs to train the football and have tournament or games most of the time too. He came back home at 9 if he doesnt have party with friends. I need my time and we already talked about it but the thing is he has class and his sport too. He used to tell me that he quit drinking and dont need friend. But once he go back to uni, everything changed. He has alot of friend some are girls too. And said he cant choose between gf and friends. And said the surrounding change him to new person and start to drink again. It was changed too fast and i need time to get used to it because I want him to have fun but at the same time I also want him all by myself. I dont have anything to do once i finished my class. I keep thinking about him and cry alot. But I can’t change his mind and i dont want to. Because i know he love me but he also love himself. What should I do? :( I dont want to break up with him and he doesnt too.
Simran @st1199
Hi!
You can’t control his life and can’t ask him to be only with you. He has his own personal life and needs his own space. However, he must divide his time for you, for his GF.
Now, you don’t like him to drink and it isn’t good for health as well although occasional drinking is okay. So, keep a check that he doesn’t become an addict and you take the responsibility that he doesn’t become one considering you care for him so you would know what and when to use the right words for that.
Also, having girls as friends should not be a problem because he just can’t and shouldn’t eliminate female friends just because you have a problem or feel something or insecure being distant from him.
You need to accept his life is and make up your mind actually as to how are you going to deal with his new life phase, but at the same time communicate with him how you feel and what all is in your mind so that he knows and you too feel light by sharing it with him, right? Also, the only option here is to trust him and have confidence as it the ground rule for a relationship. You too should not involve all your life for a man rather have your own space, spend time with yourself, family, and friends.
TeeJay @dran89
Hey there Stranger.
LDRs depend mainly on 2 things, trust and understanding.
You should have trust in each other, and if you feel its weakening, talk. Just talk.
And you both need to understand, the distance maybe physical, but you have to be there for each other. Also understand that you both have a life of your own. You both can’t expect to be the center of each others’ universes.
This year has already been hard on us, lets make it better.
Cheers and courage 😇
