No one knows, not him or even my mother. But I am part of the 97%. I never told anyone that, most people think I’m in the 3%. But I guess that would explain to everyone why I’m not comfortable hugging most people, or let them even touch me.
I would say it’s nothing serious, but a few of y’all would probably disagree.
First time, it was my own home. My sisters brought over some friends, and one was really touchy with me. I even got woken up by my sister’s boyfriend at the time, because he just got off of work and wanted to check up on me, at 3 a.m. That guy was watching me sleep, when we all went to the living room, that guy tried to kiss me. I push him away and went to the kitchen, it was suffocating. My other sister’s boyfriend at the time came out of their room and stayed with me.
Second time, it was my boyfriend. We were just hanging out, and he got a little too touchy. I didn’t tell him I was uncomfortable because I thought that that’s just what couples do. That it was normal.
Third time, it was my friend. We had a club meeting, and he sat next to me. Started to squeeze my thighs and he had a girlfriend at the time. I grabbed his hand and held it because I didn’t want to cause a scene and I needed for him to stop.
I don’t know why I chose today to let this out. But I did.
I can’t find the right tags for it. I felt unsafe and uncomfortable. It scared me.
Hi, you are not saying something bad or unconventional so don’t worry about that. It is good that you let all this out today. Felt really sad and angry regarding the harassment you faced.
You don’t need to provide any justification to anyone about why you like or don’t like their touch. The thing is: it is your personal space. You have the right to decide to whom or to what limit you want to allow someone into that space. This is normal and there isn’t anything to be ashamed of that. You also have the right to confront someone and take action legally if someone violates that code or touches you without consent.
The thing is only, how you choose to respond. If you confront the harasser at the first instance only, then the danger becomes low because when we ignore him, his confidence increases and sometimes he mistakes it to be implied consent. Whenever you feel uncomfortable or unsafe with any person or situation, trust your instincts and try to either confront it or move away from it.
It is your body, you have got to decide its rules and limits. It is our basic right as humans. You are brave enough to confront any negative person or situation. Rest assured. Also, involve your family if needed. Trust them, they love you.
Virtual handshake!!🤝
Virtual handshake!! 💜
Thank you so much, your words mean a lot. And I’ll make sure I’ll never forget them.
