New parent and finding it impossible. There is no time to think or do anything substantive I’m finding it so hard. I love my son but god it’s so hard
Yes I know wat u mean I have 3 I always find myself overwhelmed
You got this. What are you struggling with the most
Ingrid Goodwin @witsend
I have no time to think I’m just reacting all the time. I took on too much went back to work almost straight away. It’s been a rough year people I loved dearly have died and this baby was long wished for and a bit of a miracle because I was in my late 40s having him. The pandemic madness hasn’t helped but the whole thing just feels non stop never going to get a mental break. I know things don’t stay the same and will shift but I’m a bit afraid I am broken in my head and not able to experience happiness like other people are
Have you spoken to your docs about postpartum depression? Grief thrown in doesn’t help either. Do you have anyone that could help? Do you have the ability to order some prepared meals and paper plates to make dinners easier? I can say being a 51 year old with my youngest being 8, my patience are not as strong as when I was younger and fatigue plays a big role. Give yourself some grace and don’t worry so much about the small stuff.
I felt like I was under water for the first 4 months, the next 2 months were not much better, at 10 months my baby’s personality emerged and I fell in true love… yes, you love them instinctually immediately but when you really get to know them it’s amazing how deep that love is. After a year or so, I emerged. I was me but different, changed, deeper, stronger…. Like a butterfly but so much more powerful. Having kids is the most challenging and also most awarding thing you will do. Hang on tight. The first year is so hard but just like a butterfly if you don’t have to struggle and bust through that cocoon you won’t go through the necessary growth. If you give up to soon. You will never be a butterfly and your child will never have you!
Ingrid Goodwin @witsend
Thank you so much I should have clarified he is ten months old and I love him so much but I still feel new I haven’t been able to come up for air and worry sometimes that it’s me and that I won’t be able to settle with it all. Your message really helped me, made me cry and helped thank you so much
I hear you!