Sharing Our Innermost Thoughts

Need advice(first off I’ll call the guy I been with A and the other guy B)! I been with the same man A for 9 years when we first got together it was a stressful time in my life and since then I have talked with him many a time what I wanted for each other and had a open communication. I have tried to get him to better himself but he refuses. For the past few years I have felt we have drifted apart and been bugged by him more then a healthy relationship can go threw. I thought maybe spice up our relationship by finding a third person to the bed room. But it seems he didn’t care. I went on dating sites recently and found another man B that wants the same things I want and the same goals. It’s been a week and I find us discussing books, music and travels,and now talking about his current situation being the same. Guy B wants me to be with him in about a year as he needs to make sure his gf is on her own and doing well. Another thing is Guy B lives in tx and I live in Ny. I used to live in tx for two years and miss the weather. But I don’t know how break it to Guy A. Then the next big problem is when I moved last time my parents where horrible to me and I am afraid since they never met guy B that they will be even worse. I also know that men on the internet can say sweet things to get what they wanted and to not believe he will actually come get me. But Guy B has never asked for anything sexual from me. Guy B has never asked either for money cuz I had men online in my past do so. So my heart is torn for guy B and feels bad for Guy A. (Btw me and Guy b have talked threw messenger, and video chat every day and txt even he has shown me where he lives in detail on google maps) (Guy A lives with me and he doesn’t seem to care anymore all he wants is sex and that’s it. He doesn’t want to better himself) My parents have asked why I stay with Guy A and idk what to say anymore. Need advice on all this