S @damaged_empath
Need advice: Is the person/relationship still worth it if you have to constantly explain yourself and your triggers? That you have to communicate so hard for her to understand what you want to say even tho she knows it’s hard for you?
Idk I just feel like it’s the wrong person if in the get-go you don’t feel understood.
Thoughts?
You will be mentally exhausting yourself, if they don’t want to understand then leave it to them.
Constantly explaining urself and triggers to somebody that you want to be in your life is not an ideal one… pl consider again… bcz it’s not at all easy to explain ur triggers everytime to that same person…🙃
S @damaged_empath
Yes it’s so hard. I feel like… I have to beg to be understood, you know? But when it comes to her, I understand her completely and wholeheartedly.
My ex even made fun of my major insecurity…n yet i was holding onto him…but left for bcz smthg really bad was done by him… i really want somebody who can be what i am to them…it may take time but I’m alright…it’s better than hvg wrong ones
S @damaged_empath
Oh I’m sorry that happened to you. I’m glad you got out of it. It’s really hard to leave. I’m at the point right now. I know what’s going on with us is destroying my mental health, confidence, and trust with people. I know I should focus on working on myself. But I can’t seem to make myself leave.
Ah i get it…it’s going to be difficult but it’s going to be better with time is what people say…mine it’s been more than a year but even now if by any chance he appears i feel like am suffocating and weak inside… but yes most of the time am happier 💫🎶 n it’s going to get better💖
S @damaged_empath
Yeah there’s not really a definite timeline that the pain will disappear. I wish you strength and love to get through this 🤗
Thank you and i wish that to you as well…figure out things…take care💫
Dude get out . I was in the same phase with my ex. I always explained her that I need her attention not more than just a good night text and not ur whole day or even half an hour life. I constantly explained her that I hate waiting but still she made me wait for hours. And when I reacted it all came down to my fault that I blocked her or anything. I always used to tell her I don’t wanna be your number one priority cos I know u are a busy person,but I just wanna get reminded that u atleast think of me once in your whole day.
But at last all came down to that I am insecure i am jealous and I don’t understand how busy she is.
S @damaged_empath
Aw that sucks. I feel the same. I told her my triggers and the important things that matter to me. y’know it may not be a big deal for her but they are to me so I hope she would understand that. But no… To her I’m always complaining and she’s saying that I’m telling her as if she never did anything right. That’s not even the point. I just want us to understand the things that matter to us as a person.
Yeah, u raise your concern and they come back to you saying “was this my fault” .
S @damaged_empath
Exhausting and mentally draining. If you don’t mind me asking, is that why you broke up with her?
That’s a funny question dude. I was always made believed that it was my fault. She used to stay busy and when I wanted her to meet or see her face she was not there . So I even joined gym and basketball classes to keep myself busy thinking that I am being too needy to her and that might push her away. But at the last I was dumped. Cos I was immature. And I have to live with memory for the rest of my life. Trust me get out. Or else you will blaming itself everyday for ur life “kaash wo smjh jaati ya fir kaash uss din maine uspe chillaya na hota . Toh aaj kuch aur hi hota” …
But no matter how long paragraph you write to them they would never accept what made you to do so. Their ignorance,they thinking world revolve around them and what they don’t like they just don’t like.they are too selfish to compromise for love.
U will find better . A much much better. Choose a person who gives u peace not make u beg for your peace.
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