My boyfriend broke up with me without giving any reason but he is still in contact. If he texts me i cannot resist and reply within minutes with a hope that he will come back to me. If he asks for help i cannot say no because if i do that fills me up with regret. I like taking care of him. i like talking to him. but it all seems one sided now. i realise all of this ignorance from his side but i dont seem to accept the reality.
He promised me once he will fight for me but today he is the only one who left me without any fight. was it so easy for me ? if it was then why stay in contact. too much of confusion and hurt.
Sometimes i think i dont love myself and thats why i am still letting him hurt me. I want to love myself, i want to stay strong and stand up for myself and stop giving in to him.
Due to all of this my self esteem has dropped drastically.
He has broke up with u then I think you should maintain distance from himā¦tell him you cannot be in touch with him as it drains u emotionally, untill n unless you donāt stay away from him u cannot heal and move on from the hurtā¦ur probably right u donāt love urself cz ur thinking abt him first and not u as u know the issue u also know the solution now start taking steps in loving urself do whatās best for u and ull find urself in a much better place after some time.
Hey !
Thankyou for reading and replying so early.
Well, right now i feel numb about my emotions, I told him that i cannot be in contact because i need to move on , i didnt even text him back but then i dont remember how we started talking again.
Can you suggest me ways of self love or how to start with it ?
Take it slowā¦start being productive, do little things for yourself which fill ur heart with joyā¦indulge in your hobbies, journaling is best. Read, talk with your loved onesā¦know that u loved truely and you deserve something equally beautiful as you are.
Yeah, That was really helpful and suggestive.
Tbh, the last line was very sweet and true.
Genuinely Thankyou. :)
My pleasure š
Iāve done everything that you mentioned and co-incidently Iām going through the same feeling. Somedays the craving for what we had earlier becomes painful. We do so much, devote so much innocence & honesty to just be broken in the end. The only hope sometimes is to share these with someone. Let me know, if you wish to talk on zoom!!
Each and every word you said was so comforting. thankyou.
I guess, time is what i need here, i will heal and it will take some time
Self love during such times can be tough, but we often tend to find love through other people and not by looking at ourselves and loving ourself, and this impacts the self esteem and confidence but rather than finding love through someone try to find love within yourself for you, through this you will be seeing yourself rise upwards and heal rapidly.
I know this is tough but one learns the best things from tough times.
If you want to talk to someone feel free to drop a text.
Thanks
That was quite supportive of you. You know there were times when i did so much of overthinking that i used to cry non stop. i just couldnt control myself. i have very few friends with whom i can open up to . and sometimes i feel i dont even have them. I dont like to share my personal stuff with people atall, because at last i know they will make fun of me . use my life as examples.
I am sorry i just got carried away.
Its just that i am filled up . I just want to know steps that i can take to strt loving myself. steps to stay happy.
Even I am a person with very few/no friends, but I know even if you have them you find it difficult to open up, specially when things are very personal, during these I find it very helpful to talk to people who donāt know me personally or professionally because those people will talk only if they understand you.
Donāt feel sorry for yourself because that will make you weak.
There are no defined steps which you can take to start loving yourself, but starting to give time to yourself can be the beginning, especially by doing things which you enjoy, try keeping yourself busy, by reading, talking, studying or working towards something you always wanted to.
People can love you or hate you, but it is you who will always yourself, but for that you have to give time to yourself like we give time to every relationship.
At last, the best relationship one should have is with your ownself.
Ping me if you need any helpā¦
Thanksā¦ Take care
No contact rule is only thing which can make you strong. We dont have a switch on or off button for our emotions , so that we can change it from boyfriend to friend. From a point of loving person to the fullest to just friends is impossible. We are humans and promises are made to be broken. Just promise yourself that no matter in what situation you are regardles or any emotion you will believe in yourself. Talking about self love? I am happy that soon if you follow no contact rule soon you gonna start loving yourself and you would thank yourself later for being strong in tough time. We usually lack self love and ghat is the reason why we attach every piece of happiness to our partners.
Wooowww I had the same type of bf and he even broke up in front of the whole class without even talking to me about it and after 6-10 he started texting me back its be 3-4 years now that Iām single I have blocked him on social media and Iām at peace now
