My boyfriend and i are dating for like 8 months… He was my best frnd before then he proposed and i said yes…but now it feels like complicated…he asks for nudes…and sex… Idk is it okay to ask or not…but i don’t like that…and he is not ready to tell anyone about our relationship… He wants to keep it secret… Even from closed ones…he is not ready to tell his parents… He says tell my parents first…so i doubt that does he really love me or not… Is he ashamed of me… And imp thing that our casts are different…is our relationship will end on marrying after… Or just 7 8 yrs of togetherness and then family prblm so breakup…idk what to do… I can’t breakup with him because he will not understand and will get angry…idk what to doo.!!!
You dont have to be in such a situation if you dont want to. you have to confront him about what he really is upto. youve to make sure that you both want the same thing. and most importantly, you have to be comfortable in whatever he wants you to do or asks of you. if you arent willing to do something, then whats the point? make yourself clear to him and listen to what he has to say. communication is the best key to everything in life. good luck.
love,
V
Talk to him.
Ask him what Exactly you people are. Cause this is toxic.
Love shouldn’t be this confusing and hurting.
And if he denies or turns tables or doesn’t give you clear answers and still leaves you confused and hurt and continues to demand nudes and sex then pack your things, and walk away even if it hurts.
You ain’t someone’s playtoy.
And castes? Love doesn’t have castes. Forget about it. You need to worry about whom you are going to live with. Not the caste his parents passed onto him.
Stay strong.
Divya @invisible001
This sounds really toxic. So better step out of this relationship or it may end up badly. If he was genuine he wouldn’t ask for nudes the 2nd time when you said that you’re not comfortable with it. You don’t have to, meant to be in a relationship that makes you feel insecure.
No need to rethink, JUST BREAK UP WITH HIM.
I don’t have any idea how to breakup with me…what reason i will give… I can’t explain…!! 🥺 It’s not easy… He is going to be very angry… And i don’t know how to deal with it…
Divya @invisible001
Oh don’t worry. No need to say any reason just block him everywhere saying goodbye. If anything goes wrong after this seek help from your best friends. Simple…
Divya @invisible001
Welp I can relate to you very much as my crush behaved like this on the same day when I confessed my feelings to him. 🙂😑
@invisible001 and if he threatens you or anything, please do contact an elder you trust and open up.
You haven’t done anything wrong.
But yes, break up with him.
That is also a problem…my best frnd and my bf don’t get along… There is dushmani between them😬…and i don’t have anyone to trust and tell everything about this without being judged…and without letting know anyone
You can’t keep getting crushed between them, can you?
You gotta talk to them about how this is getting to you. It will be hard but you just got to do it.
And if they really love you, then they’ll respect your emotions and atleast try to get along for you.
He knows my home…my mom also knows him but didn’t know that we are dating…i send him nudes also… As he was begging and i lobe him so i trusted him… But i don’t think that he will expose them on any platform…but i always get second thoughts that did i choose the right guy for me… Because he is not the guy i wanted as my bf…the things that a bf would do for mee… He don’t do any of those
See, if he was manly enough Nd if HE LOVES YOU then he wouldn’t beg for nudes. And that is really wrong.
When you told him NO, he should have just left it the first time itself. But he kept begging you and you’d eventually give in cause of love.
I’ve been there. I did things out of love. And still i left him cause he wasnt treating me right.
Your second thoughts are right.
He isn’t the one for you. You just chose the wrong one Nd that made you realise you deserve better than some nude-begging-emotionally-attacking guy.
Leave him.
Yeahh i know i have to leave him…but idk howw…how he will he react…if he came to my house and told my mother nd father abt all this then what will i do… I think m stuck with him… And have no idea how to get out of this mess🥺
How about this.
Tell your parents. Don’t be scared.
I was in the same place girl.
I hid my relationship from my parents, and then one day we got into some argument and he just showed up at my place and threw things at my doorstep. And my mom saw all this. And it was then, she got to know. And then their parents met and fight and shit happened.
And you know what hurt my mom the most? The fact that i hid. Not the fact that i was with him. The fact that she got to know from someone else and not me. That sucks.
Your parents have put the utmost trust in you. So i think you should take the responsibility to keep it that way.
Just talk to them. They will be mad. They will be angry. But for how long uh? Its okay if they take it to their parents too. You’ll be free forever.
And honestly, stop saying that. No one is stuck with anyone. It is your life. You do what you want.
And the point that you are shit scared that your bf could mess up your life by attacking your vulnerabilities and situations and also might expose you to your parents inspite of everything you do for him is the worst type of personal attack. Do you think he is the right one?
Take your time and think. What have you got to lose if you lose a guy like this and if you are honest to your parents? Nothing. You won.
Think.
Thank you very much for your advice…🥺❤️i will try to talk to my mom…
