My bf’s ex always tried to text my bf and acted like she was doing him a favor to connect him with other roommates (my bf and his ex are living together as roommates with other two roommates bc they are in a friend group). He realized her problem that she tried to be close to him, and he did not like her, but it’s really annoying to observe what that girl has been trying to do. She also tried to hold my bf’s hand when he was drunk when they broke up, and a friend spoke up about her inappropriate action. Idk what exactly I am feeling, but seeing what she has been up to makes me and my bf uncomfy. 

This reply really discouraged me. This problem really bothered me. 

Frustration

I don't know what to feel. My boyfriend and I are of the same age. He lost his father 3 years back, he has been looking after his mom and sister since then. He has a lot of responsibilities on his shoulders. Recently he left his job and has started his own business along with three of his best friends. He is currently not in a good position financially. 
My family has been asking me to marry someone and settle down for a while, and when they asked me again, I told them about him. At first they were reluctant because of his situation, but for the sake of my happiness, my older brothers asked him to meet them. My family's intention was to speak with him and his Mother and to talk about our wedding and decide on a later date (he said we can marry after we turn 28 and my family was okay with it),  I. E. fix our wedding. My boyfriend was reluctant about it and he said he cannot talk to his mother about us right now (she doesn't know about us) because he has a lot of responsibilities as of now and he needs to set up his business which would take time. Hence he did not meet my brothers. After a couple of times of asking him to meet them, they said they won't allow me to marry him. As I'll be turning 26 they are worried about my wedding and want me to move on. I don't know what to do.
I love him a lot and I am ready to wait, but I know my family's claim that they need an assurance in the form of engagement is also valid. My boyfriend says he's unable to provide that assurance now and asks me if I can wait for him. My family asked me to break up with him and move on. Can somebody give me their thoughts on what to do  😢


Relationships

i keep saying that i am fine 
but deep down i know that i am not fine cause he doesn't make time for me to text 
also he doesn't respond me while i am flirting he just reply no u cann't do that
i dont know what to do 

Boyfriend

It’s been one of those days that I try to hold in my emotions so much that they end up being happy and then extremely sad and confused and emotional. I am upset that I’ve been cheated on but it’s not the fact that he cheated on me because I haven’t told him I know, it’s the fact that he won’t even sit and listen to me. I don’t have anyone to talk to and that’s exactly what I need right now, I just need a friend to hear me out

What to do if someone leaves your whatsapp messages after reading and doesn't answer your calls ?
I asked him in chats many times why but simply not answering .

this is my first time here
i am a girl, my mind is a mess lots of things goes in this and became the reason of my overthinking, anxiety and sleepless nights. for me right now my relationship became the biggest mess in my life all started 5 years ago met a guy started dating getting attached and in no time i fell in love, i didn't know about him but, i was maybe i am still but i scared to accept this because when i did he left me, cheated on me, broke my trust, i don't t know the whole truth there is so much history which i don't even know properly. we dated for more then a year i experienced so many happiness, joy, loved which i guess i never felt before but all that was like dream ended as a nightmare. we broke up 2 years ago and still i see myself standing right their struggling to get him out of mind out my life but can't. their is not even a single day i haven't remembered him it like i having a dream in which everything is same but what he did is unforgivable. he claims that he still love me few times we had a call he cried, begged, and what not but believing him is not possible for me. its really hard to listen to his suffering and acting like i don't care where from inside i know that i m gone through worst still his smiling picture makes me smile and his problem bothers me too but i can't say because he is that person now with whom i can't se myself but can't deny the fact that i loved him by all my heart, honesty, and soul. i didn't dated since no specific reasons though i also thought that may be i am not ready to let anyone else enter my life because before and after him i never had anyone this close to me to whom i can just lead my head and cry for no reason. from childhood all i felt is emptiness, loneliness and only that one year removed that feeling  but after that that emptiness, loneliness came back and this time with anxiety, denial, hate, no confidence from inside it all felt empty the more i try to be happy the more it cam with tears. still made a fake image of strong, independent, badass personality but in reality i m always struggling to find reasons to laugh. its like i don't know myself anymore my fake personality id taking over but his returns his text, calls, talks just make me realize that what if still everybody is playing with my feelings again. he is playing with me. i was never able to confess this to anyone because i was scared people see me as stupid teenager spoiling time in this shit but idk whenever i m stupid crazy or anything else but all i have is this nonstop feelings thoughts and dilemmas but when it comes to do something about it i fail. denial world is better i focus good on my studies i seem doing well in every aspect on my life but reality is just for me and now when typing this all i have is non stop teary eyes, scared , feeling weak and honesty i hate this feeling because all it gave me pain its been 2 years and still  no progress hopefully in coming time all this goes away i try and try.
people who are reading this thank you for your patience  and i apologize for my bad English its hard for me typing and expressing myself 
 and do tell me that all this is worth something or just a waste of time because, i don't know all i do is putting barriers on all this thoughts and this is my first time sharing hope you people understand.🙂

Breakup

Okay so I really loved loved this guy he lied to me all the time that he was single when he was not.I was never in a relationship with him. It was almost a situationship,(yes he cheated on his gf with me *unintentionally*) he says he never looked at me in a romantic way but then we did all the things like couples. He admits it in front of people that he gave me fake Hopes and he was wrong but he didn't realise it back then.
That girl and he broke up when she got to know he was playing with her as well. And today I found out in the span of 10 months he dated a girl and now he's in a relationship with another girl. (Yes please this guy is a playboy.) Like I know all of this is really toxic and I need to move on but I don't know I'm not able to. It's been a year since I'm trying to move on but one way or the other I end up wanting him back. He may not have loved me but I surely did.
And i hate feeling this way cause I'm stuck and it's affecting my career and mental health so much. I already have anxiety issues and borderline personality disorder it's just so difficult for me to ACT NORMAL.
Today I had several breakdowns. Let's just say I've been crying since morning. I don't even have many friends. And bringing up this guy's topic just makes me feel I'm burdening my friends with my problems which doesn't even makes sense. Like even they must be tired of explaining me the same thing over and over. This is just so exhausting like I need a holiday away from everyone and all of this drama.

Hi guys, it's Tara here. Hope u all are fine and enjoy ur life .well, last day of 2022 is going on and also it's my last day on this app too ... I think I said this 2nd 3rd time that   I'm leaving this app 😂 but what can I do 🤷it's not my fault . I become addicted to this app but i swear this is the last post of mine . And in this  post I want share my experience with this app.. approx. 5 month ago when I installed it .firstly I read one post in which one girl mentioned that she fell in love with stranger and seriously I laughed alot 'coz i thought how it's possible to fell in love with any stranger about whom u don't know anything.. okay, afterwards I enjoyed this app even I made many connections too.however,there was 1 connection that changed me alot and it means alot to me although I didn't think anything like this before.. that someone met me like this and he became lesson of my life 😂.. kk. I don't wanna mention his name here.U know when for the 1st time i talked with him i thought he will also like other boys who keep talk for some time after that they ask for any other social I'D 😒.. but look how fortunate I was 'coz he was totally different.. he asked me daily about my day happenings about my hobbies, dreams, career, but he never ever went so personal. and he always motivates me at tough situations Life goes so beautiful at that time .. But kuch log ese hote he jine yeh sab ras nai atta.. yes I'm the one of them 🤚yaha kisi ka kasoor nai he it's my fault 'coz one day me lrdi kisi aur se aur gussa nikala bechare apne dost pe... After that I took break from this app.And he also.pr uske badd me toh AA gai pr woh ajj tak nai aya 4 month ho gye .. and look how stupid I am 'coz I'm still waiting for him.😉 Now plz don't think that I fall in love 😂with that guy.. I w8 for him bcoz he is just friend which is best. But now I realise some pplz come to make u laugh , create memories with and to learn u lesson. That's it. And it's not their fault it's urs 'coz u expect too much , when u hold onto that person even when they are long gone . In that moment u hurt urself . U create hell 4 urself by staying in the past . Life is not serious as much as u think . I guess most people just cannot accept that they had to let go of their dearest friend even if they didn't want to. Like me 😉but now I understand what u need to do 4urself is to create a safe place somewhere inside u. A place in heart like an connection that u need to build with urself where u feel whatever u want .. u need to take responsibility of ur happiness or sadness.. nobody's will come... These external things will come and go. But their absence or presence shouldn't bother u ... After that boy I talked with many others but they are all same .. I didn't find like him.. and  this is the end of the year and I think it's over .I expected too much that's why I created loneliness corner in my heart ... But now it's not anymore . Soo, let it go .. if they want to come welcome them, if they want to go , show them the way out . Period! Hence, instead of finding a connection that feels safe in the external world , and expecting people to turn out as u expected them to be , be that person who treat  herself with love . Love the experiences... That's all. Wish u a happy new year ahead 🎊

Coming Out

Not sure how do we talk to people here 

I am stuck in a situationship since 9momths now, met through a dating app. The guy wanted a relationship initially, but then backed off, we continued being friends. And the bond I share with him is extraordinary it's friendship, it's a partnership it's something I would want permanently, I have talked to him regarding this, but he dosent seem to change his mind at any cost. He still continues to see other girls casually. But he's also completely invested in me and every single details of my life, but still won't step up

Why can't he see the same thing. 

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