J @wilbs_02
My anxiety has peaked. Idk where it came from, and I don’t know why. I never used to be like this. Maybe it was because I wasn’t really living then. I have experienced a lot of new things lately and this might be the one negative that has come from it. I am in college and I see that I have started to slack lately. Not on purpose, I just have a lot of pressure on me right now. I have two jobs and I play a sport so and I just feel all this weight on my back. I did it to myself. I mean in order to survive in this world sometimes you have to take on the workload that comes with it. But I am just wondering how much more I can take before I break. I just want the pressure in my chest to go away and for all the worries to stop.
B @laviii
I hope you feel good and positive soon, trust God, work on your anxiety, stay happy😊
hanmin @crysen
Huge workload man. And suddenly too, it seems. Too much change is insanely stressful; is there anyway you can stop the sport? Or at least reduce to a level that’s therapeutic instead of stressful?
I would suggest to stop work, but what you say suggests you need the money to get along.
As for the reply before me… Yes, trust God, but that means making our best decisions possible and letting God handle the outcomes. Practically, for us, it means listening and offering practical help. It does not mean throwing empty words at people.
J @wilbs_02
I am a college student who is struggling to find her way
hanmin @crysen
Yeah, you’re probably feeling lost. That’s ok, you know? We get lost sometimes. Previously you mentioned ‘i did it to myself’. What do you mean? Was it like you don’t need to do so much, but you chose to? Or something else?
J @wilbs_02
Meaning I just kept saying yes to everything. I originally decided not to play field hockey coming to college but was a bit pressured into it my spring semester freshman year. My class schedule this semester is really lowkey compared to past semesters and I knew I needed to make money in order to pay for groceries etc and was offered the two jobs and I just said yes. So in reality I put this workload on myself.
hanmin @crysen
Oh I see. I would be kinder about it and say that some of the stuff was taken up because there was a genuine need (you did mention you needed cash for groceries).
I wonder if your anxiety is rooted in having to do things that you don’t really want to do?
I think it’s valid to have to work (even I you dont like it) to supply your basic needs, but if you’re taking on extra work and even a sport you don’t want to play when you don’t have to do it, that’s got to be stressful. It’s most of your life right there, right? Doing stuff you don’t want to do.
Maybe I would help if you planned out how much you actually need? And start thinking through cutting out the rest?
I suspect you may have a challenge saying no, or quitting right now, but you dont have to yet. It’s more important right now to know what’s necessary stress and what’s actually optional before planning what to do about it. This would be a preparation phase.
Remember that you don’t have to be busy. Free time is not wasted time.
