Me and this guy have been very good friends for almost a year now. I would not say we have dated its just in the start we both did not want any commitment so we just hugged hold hands kissed at most. Now the situation is i have been very clear that being physical beyond a certain limit is not possible but these things are very important to him. We have hurt each other on deep levels. Now he just wants a conclusion that we should continue what we have without any limits or we should just stay friends from bow. The thing is now he wants to save me too he cannot promise me any future of us being together. But that is why i want him to maintain a certain limit between us. But he says he cannot stop himself from touching me no matter what. What should i do i do not want to let him go but this whole siutation it seems lika a time pass though we both love each other. What should i do?
Prabhakar M N @mnpsatan13
Your relationship is complicated. Try to talk to him and both of you reach a common ground so that both of you are happy. If you reach then it’s good. Else cutting off is the better option
Figuratively speaking, you can’t cry for a person who dies everyday.
Just tell him about that “extreme touch” thing he’ll understand & if he ain’t you make him understand
I think it’s your time to ask him where he wants to take this, if u are not comfortable without a promising future then let him know and then wait for his reaction.
He has made himself quite clear now. But there is this thing that we had arguements bad arguments from time to time regarding being physical. It was wrong on my part too. We have hurt each other. And now he is saying if we continue we will argue again after few days. Right now he seems so tough that i am confused whether he really wants to end us or he is angry or he is hurt…
If it’s complicated right now in your journey, try to give some time n space for things to fall in place.
If he wanna stay, he will make sure he does. Else you should leave else u might get pushed away from the other end.
Nat N @ihatepeople101
There should be no excuse for him trying to cross your boundaries, especially when it involves physical touch. I believe that if this relationship is too complicated, then I think that it would be best to finally just leave it. I know it’s a hard decision, but it will impact you for the better later on, stay safe!
I’m really sorry to say this. But only you seem genuine to me in this case. Remember, somebody who wants to be w you will be w you. If he really loved you he would’ve asked for the relationship? Ik there’s this limit you don’t wanna cross and he clearly said go further or just be friends. I don’t think it’s love. He wants fwb with you nothing more. Move on.
Getting the facts you told about your relationship, I would want you to choose what is actually important to you. What does it matter the most to you? Do you really want him to stay by your side? Do you want him to stay forever?
If yes, then you would also say that he’s loyal and honest too. If he’s so then believe me or not he wouldn’t complicate things like he did. Like if there are arguments between you he’s not even solving yet asking you to let him touch you which you don’t even prefer. You also understand that he’s not being good to you. But because you’re so attached to him that you can’t think of leaving or hurting him.
All I can do is suggest that ask him for a break. Ask him to stay away from each other for some time until your feelings get sorted out. In between if he gets another girl(who lets him be physical ) then never get upset cz you’ll know by that time that he was never loyal to you
A few days back he said lets just be friends and i agreed. But a day before we were casually texting ang again he came on those topics and he was talking like nothing has really happened and he even said we are together for now. I did not say anything but again today he said why can’t you have sex with me break all your limits etc. I have told him to leave all these things on time and he said we don’t really have time. The thing is i know he is a good boy and he has been honest about everything infact right now he was saying i know i am acting like a sex freak right now. He understands everything and probably loves me too. It just seems like this physical thing is not in his control.
He can very well control himself every guy can…he’s trying to manipulate you…don’t fall for it…how are you doing rn