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Anonymous

Marriage is the worst thing, why must we marry? Why must we girls have to leave our home nd live with some strangers? Why can’t the boy nd girl both live separately from his parents? Why always girls have to sacrifice everything. Why is it only a girls duty to look after her in laws but when it comes to the boy it isn’t his duty to look after the girl’s parents? Why is society so unjust towards girls? What did we do to deserve this?

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That @notaqueen

Yes, you are totally right… Our society has this ‘so called rituals’ in which only girls or woman has to do sacrifice in all things… why the couple can’t just do live-in relationship in india… its almost like taboo in india
Because of this narrow minded society many happy relationships failed

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Anonymous

No u can’t do live in in India. Because how else will the husband’s mother get a free maid? A nurse in old age and baby bearing machine? U can’t do live in. U can not come and live in ur wife’s house either because that’s a taboo too.

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Anonymous

Because he is a man amongst men. Who has worked so hard in his job how can u expect the maa ka ladla to do any house hold chores? From the time they were born they were taught that a girl, woman is supposed to look after them. And doing any household works make them less of a man nd this beliefs are put into their mind by a woman, their mother.

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Anonymous

patriarchy man😓
altho everyone is trying to break free from these things now
Hope to have a great future ahead

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Anonymous

Only we, girls, women are trying to break free from this. 70% of men still think that a woman’s duty is to take responsibility of his family. Have u ever heard of a guy who ever said je chalo let’s live separately nd take care of both of our parents? No. Because a girls parents don’t have value in this patriarchal society

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Anonymous

agreed majorly only women are trying to break free from this.
but women have an option to educate men around us about such things. and doing this is important.
trust me men are considering these things too little by little. they’re changing. it won’t be easy.
seeing that you’re focusing on marriage, i would personally stay away from guys who think the way you’ve said. I’ll talk to them if they understand, it’s good. If they don’t, just leave.
women already suffer from a lot of this, they don’t want to suffer more because the guy thinks shit

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Anonymous

you must really talk to your man.
you must let them know that it’s not gonna work from one side.
he must not only help his wife, but his own mother or anyone.
chores are just chores they don’t have to be gender specific

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Anonymous

agreed. love or arranged lockdown or not this behaviour is always the worst.
I’m 22 years old, I don’t know what you must have gone thru.
But you can’t let a man’s ego get over you.
how can a man spread rumours about you when you are just talking about your rights.
not deciding to marry is fine, but spreading rumours is not criminally offensive.
may I know where do you stay? because the things you’re saying sound so bad it’s so sad.
I’m so sorry that you and other girls like you have to go thru this

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Anonymous

in an arranged marriage it’s always better to be clear about things in the beginning itself so that there won’t be a problem if things go ahead with the marriage

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Anonymous

Omg that’s not good.
I’d suggest you to not make a hush hush and take a good time to know the rishta your parent bring.
Also just tell them what your expectations are from this marriage in the beginning itself. Don’t wait for much time of to get engaged.
It’s better to wait for a good rishta than marrying off into a bad and regret.
Hope and power to you

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Anonymous

Yes that’s great. Hope you find a good guy in this not so good world

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Anonymous

Don’t worry have faith 😇

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