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Anonymous

Made friends with a girl 2 years ago. We instantly clicked, INSTANTLY. We became the best of friends and well, I fell for her. I told her about how I felt and well she always used to say that she wasn’t sure about having the same feelings for me. She told me that she didn’t want to say yes just to make me happy and then later hurt me, which is completely understandable. But, all along, we used to behave as if we both loved each other equally. We used to call each other, we used to tell each other every single thing and well it was all what I considered to be perfect. But, later that year she told me that she didn’t feel the same way about me. It broke me, I still feel low whenever I think about it and well guess what? We still are the best of friends but I’d be lying if I said I had no hopes for us getting together earlier. It took me A SHIT TON of efforts to convince myself that it was never going to happen and all the while in this process, I turned bitter towards her. I started distancing myself from her. She still considers me to be her BEST friend and I do too but it’s just that the past, it really really hurts me. I’ve had pathetic days that only I know how I’ve dealt with. I still get that weird ass feeling if I see someone trying to get too close to her and I don’t know what to do. I’ve felt like breaking contact with her but I just can’t do seem to ever do it because she’s done too much for me. Especially during these times I feel helpless because it keeps coming to me again and again. Anyone on here who can kinda help me, I’ll be grateful :)

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Anonymous

If you really want to move on… tell her that you can’t be friend with her bcz u have feelings for her and cut off contact. Sadly that’s the only way. I know it will be hard but u will get through this 🙂

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Anonymous

Thank you :’)

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Anonymous

Do you think distancing yourself from her will solve the situation .
What about her feelings ??
You have said that both of you used to share each and every thing then how difficult it would be for her …
Because of your feelings she has lost her bestest friend .
Listen distancing yourself from her will only hurt both of you. What can you do is Just talk with her about your emotions and your situation.

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Anonymous

That’s exactly why I said I can’t seem to do it because she’s done too much for me. I can never gather the balls to do it. I have thought about it but I’ve never been able to do it

Aakanksha @sadsoul0happyfa...

Hey buddy!!
I cannot say i completely understand what you feel, but i have been on same position where a very good friend of mine used to like and i was confused.
I guess there are 2 things that are bothering her. firstly, she doesn’t want to ruin the friendship, the bond you two share. because, even after trying alot if a relationship doesn’t prevail and lasted you two will never ever be able to bond like earlier. That after breakup phase, will make you think ki haan, pehele hum friends them then hum best friends huye, then we got into relationship, we shared so many good and bad moments together , supported each other and all that stuff and lastly, we broke up and lost that initial bond of friendship too.

secondly, may be she fears to lose you. What if in between all this process she looses you?

So, I will suggest ki take thoda time, think upon it. And then do whatever it feels right to you.

If you want to talk more on it, comment below, i’ll share a handle of mine.

Take Care.

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Anonymous

THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT SHE SAYSSSSS. And I totally totally understand her. I don’t blame her for anything. I genuinely have no words for how much the both of us have helped each other but its just that I don’t want to hurt her and be rude and insensitive towards her because at times those bitter feelings do settle in.

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Anonymous

I’d really appreciate if you gave me the handle you were talking about :)

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