Lost
hard to pretend everything is fine when it is not.
having conflicts with spouse inspite of trying hard.
everything seems falling apartβ¦
Janmesh @janmesh
Hey donβt pretend! if youβre having conflicts take a step for minimizing themβ¦ donβt wait for your partner to take them:)
I have tried everything. My partner is not ready to communicate. this has been the problem. what should I do. I dont want to lose my partner. what can I do alone? Nothing seems helping.
Janmesh @janmesh
Try to make him/her talk if you have mature kids involve them or else involve both your parents and inlaws!
Also you can try telling your partner that their relation may affect your kids!
no kids. Involved in laws and parents but didnβt help anything. Instead they became more worried and insecure about us kids. there had been many fights to the extent it gave suicidal thoughts to both of us. But I have too much love for my partner. I start feeling lost with no efforts from other side. Even my partner has chnged a lot from jovial person to silent one. Dont know how to fix everything
Janmesh @janmesh
Try to take your partner on vacation alone some place where thereβs no mobile network peaceful environment and confess about how you feel and what you want!
Since inlaws are involved a lot now, they dont give us space at all. even my partner is not ready for anything, no vacation, no plans nothing. Just office work and nothing else. I thought change of environment might be a good step but nothing seems to working. I dont know I am troubling more with my efforts or it is all okay to keep trying with no expectations.
Janmesh @janmesh
Then you should make plan with you in-laws in order to get your old partner back and your partner requires a nice calm environment where he/she can open up!
Simran @st1199
Hi!
Do you communicate with him about what you are feeling and how everything is right now?
Would you like to share whatβs on your mind?π»
I have shared multiple times. I do it everyday. I do it even when I dont get a response. I have planned to keep doing with patience as I get angry and also emotional very easily. working on it.
Simran @st1199
What does he do in that case? Acknowledge you or listen to what you are saying?
I do not get any response mostly bcz he/she thinks that there is no point in as it will lead to discussions all over again. Mostly I think they dont care. Reacting with everyone else in a good way but cold response for me and my side of family. I get hurt more with this behavior.
Simran @st1199
I have seen problems and experienced them, not personally but seen in my family.
I feel itβs important that you take and continue taking your stand and make them realize you are not someone who can be asked to shut up.
Else, go on a vacation? Just you and your partner, maybe the love arises again. Or a Coupleβs therapy? They wonβt go but ask because you want it to happen?