Just help me out guys.
I was chatting with a friend of mine for a year now and he is not the most sociable person one can find. He has lied to me on various occasions and for no reasons. I never felt like mentioning it to him because I thought maybe that was not his intention. But then those lies kept piling up and wanted to confront him on a call probably and get clarified. Initially he lied giving random reasons for why he can’t speak to me on a call. But then as I pressed a little more, He denied it out right saying he was not that comfortable over a call.i don’t know if this was a lie too or some other reason which only he knows. And I too didn’t press beyond a limit for the call.
I have three questions-
1. Was it wrong on my part to expect that we can have a call inspite of knowing he isn’t that sociable, although we have been speaking for over a year now.
2. Now he seems angry, should I be apologising to him?
3. If atall he wasn’t that comfortable to speak over a call, why was he texting me throughout the past year then?
1. The answer feels like mine. We are introverts. We like fewer calls and more texts. We hesitate calls most of the time as we cannot frame words in calls. It is not wrong to expect but we like to have our space.
2. If he knows you well he will understand eventually.
3. He was comfortable with you but not with your calls
Thanks for that
Anjali @whoisthiscantaloupe
What’s wrong with a call? It’s not like you’re asking him to meet you in person or have a video call. I think it’s a clear case of catfish.
I can totally resonate with you. I am just giving a benefit of doubt that probably that’s just who they are
Anjali @whoisthiscantaloupe
It could be. But now I think if someone is really not interested in calls, better let them be. Let people open up whenever they feel like.
