I’ve been married for 3 years. I live around 6 hours away from my parents, after marriage. I searched for a guy there because of my job being in that city. Now, I feel distant from my parents and helpless when I want to meet her. I feel like I cannot see my family whenever I want to. I have to wait for a couple months everytime I go back to my in laws. Now, I’m happy with my husband, but my sister in law (married and lives 5 minutes away from my house) appears to be a narcissist. She has a strong influence on my mother in law which has led to fights between me and my MIL. When I confronted her, she blamed me for trying to break the house and what not. I also recently got blessed with my son, and I don’t want yer around my child at all, because I’m afraid she will spoil him too, just like she has spoiled her own kids. What do I do? I’m regretting marrying into this family, but I did not know things are going to turn this way. I’m getting depressed day by day. What to do? Please help!!
So u r living with ur inlaws now?
Yes
And i guess ur job is non transferrable
I can’t get transferred because my MIL doesn’t want to go away from her daughter, and my FIL is no more. We don’t want to leave her alone obviously. I feel so trapped. My family priest told me that SIL is also into black magic and also tried doing some nasty stuff on me, but it didn’t impact me thankfully. Of all things, I’m afraid she might do something to my child as well :(
Wats ur husband’s stand on this??
He says even he wants to get away from his sister but can’t leave his mother alone, and I understand that. I don’t have any proof of the black magic part, but he said he won’t be surprised if she does something like this. I just need to find a way to protect my child from her
Hmm its good that ur husband understand u… As to protect ur child does she show over care in ur child?
Yes. Over over care, and sometimes I fear that she will try to turn him against me. She says things like bua loves you the most, and she has 2 kids who are 10 and 5 years old and they’re always like can we hold him? I obviously don’t let them hold my child, but my SIL says when your son will be a little old, I will take him to my house for playing. I won’t let her do that no matter if I have to tell her directly that I don’t trust her at all. She pretends to be so sweet with everyone and plays the victim when confronted for any issue. Please suggest how to just move out of there and at least physically away from her so she can’t meet us as frequently as she does now
Cant mother stay with her for sometime?? I mean u take transfer and move away from that place… Mom can stay with her daughter and u guys can visit on holidays
No she is married and doesn’t want to take responsibility of taking care of her mother. She just pretends to love her so she can get her property (different story). She can take all she wants I just want her to leave us alone!!
Here either ur mother in law or ur husband shud speak up… In case of ur child u have full authority to speak… But as u said if u speak up she will play the victim card… Do ur mother in law know all this??
She does. My SIL has such an influence on her that even if God will come and say that her daughter is at fault, my MIL will not accept it
Can u go n stay at ur home saying some important work at ur home?? Like some work going on at home and ur parents cant handle alone so for few months u will have go n stay there?? Mayb get transferred to place nearby ur home also??
I’m at my parents home right now, but only for a few days. No option of getting transferred here as of now. The worst part is my SIL is into black magic and that worries me the most :( I’m literally unable to do anything because of this fear, but I don’t have a proof to prove my point, so I can’t act on it right now
Ah well i don’t knw about this black magic like is it real or not… C till now it didn’t effect u because mayb u never thought ill of someone or harmed anyone right… In future also ur good attitude and faith will protect you and ur family i guess
Hoping for the same 🙏🏻
Faith is all I have
Hmm and hows sil hus n children?? Are they good with u??
They all are the same. She’s raising her kids to be like her of course
Oh… Don’t worry just take care that while worrying for ur child u r not being too strict on him too… That will naturally lead to a likeness in his mind to his bua… Don’t be so liberal also that he get spoiled by u… Just don’t let the fear of sil effect ur relationship with ur hus n child
Does your husband listen to you. If yes then talk to him and explain him what are your concerns. If he listens then well and good but if he doesn’t transfer your job to another place and atleast move away from your sister in law.
He listens to me. He also wants to move away from her honestly. The problem is my MIL doesn’t want to go anywhere. She doesn’t want to leave this house and her daughter. Also, she recently went through a brain surgery so we don’t want to bother her right now.
Take transfer to a place far from there and don’t tell family that u asked for the transfer… Its mandatory or something… And just move away… Take ur son too…
