Sharing Our Innermost Thoughts

Ive been feeling really anxious lately in general and my anxiety is effecting me daily. A lot of things I have control over and I’m working in ways to try and solve them. However, when it comes to my relationship, it involves another person that is going through a severe depressive period. I need some advice on how to navigate that?

I just want to climb onto the moon for him, and having to tone that down is hard when I want to give him the best, but we have established that isn’t what’s best for him to meet his needs.

I guess I just don’t know how to do that, spend time together in small ways or more manageable ways. Like the only thing we’ve agreed on doing is going to the cinema and have a meal before/after. That way it’s a good balance of hanging with eachother, having some down time, and still doing something we enjoy together.

I was going to suggest we go on walks in different areas, but it is quite cold right now. Maybe need to pack a hot picnic and some tea or something because the weather is super cold😅

Another thing that makes me anxious is when I hear he’s socialising and having fun with his friends and colleagues, and though I’m so happy for him that he’s able to have fun and take opportunities to enjoy himself. I do wonder why he’s struggling to do that with me? Makes me feel unworthy. And though I have asked him if I should be taking that personally, he has been frank to tell me that I shouldn’t be taking anything personally or seriously and that he is trying his best in everything. So you would think case closed? But my anxiety isn’t letting my automatic, instructive thoughts be any easier.

Sorry it’s super long, lots of thoughts and overthinking I appreciate all constructive advice and words of support ❤️