It’s been almost 4 years since I had a romantic adventure with a girl that I consider my first love although it didn’t last long at all I wanted it to continue and I was very clinging to that idea, making me ashamed of myself and possibly making her uncomfortable.
After what seemed like the longest 6 months we stopped talking, I changed cities for university, and she got back with her ex that is also one of my close friends. For 1 year we had 0 contact at all and suddenly one day she started sparking convo from my stories and since then we have been texting each other on and off, but nothing flirty, after all she’s still with my friend.
During my 3 years at uni I pursued 2 other relationships that didn’t end up anywhere and this summer, I went back to my home town and he have been spending a lot of time together as a friend group.
I thought I was over her, like really over her, but this past month has reignited some feelings that were put out for 3 years, I really don’t know what to do, some nights I keep repeating to myself that I cannot make a mess again, but I still catch myself thinking about her and wanting her.
Part of the problem is that she is such a sweet person and I can’t hate her even if she’s treated me poorly in the past. Also her way of showing emotion to her bf and her friends is so damn similar so I’m always second guessing myself and thinking about the “what ifs”.
I dont know what to do, I don’t want to cut her off because she’s one of the few ppl that I can openly talk to about my feelings and problems but by doing that I run the risk of being stupid and ruining whatever friendship we have.
Anything is welcome
Man I don’t know whether i am someone appropriate to tell you to do something because i have been going more or less through same patch but yes to cutoff her from your life is something every intelligent person suggest because you may find someone else as a friend also to share things or someone else can also make u feel better and it’s the best possible way not to feel for her again and going through same rough patch and soo but genuinely same situation with me , I just can’t give up on my bff because i feel it’s all my fault she always thought we are like very great friends she shared things with me considering a very understandable friend but it’s just my fault to think that she has something for me , i am not telling u that we have same situation but man i think that girl just consider you as her verygood friend and after all your breakup with her if she is still there for you , it’not always that may be she is thinking u as 2nd option just think this way that she consider you as her very very good friend who she can’t lose up so u just thinking that u need to cutoff her u could try to cutoff your thinking that may be her action are her soooo pure feeling for you as a great friend and man just don’t overthink that much try to enjoy her presence and feel lucky that yes you have someone to whom u could ever go too and ofcourse someone who won’t judge you and still if she is overyour head then may be try to cutoff her from your life…
Hope so it helped man a little bit…
Btw 1dialogue to you," juo tera haal hai wuo mera haal chal haal sai haal milate hai taal sai taal milate✋✋😁"
Yeaaa I’m sure she’s not romantically interested in me at the moment. And it’s not like she’s singe so I can try again, I’m not gonna do that for sure. It’s just that for some reason feelings are resurfacing and controlling them is hard.
Thank youu <3
How can I translate the text at the bottom I’m curious 😅
