Isn’t weird you spend most of the time with yourself but you are so busy in pleasing others that you forget yourself…?
And then you complain about nobody loves you but the real question is do you even love yourself?
You think you can feel loved
You can feel happy
You can feel blessful only when you are with someone else…but you never enjoyed your own company… Because you forget yourself…you see yourself from the eyes of others then you ask yourself a question why you hate yourself… ?
Hey, thanks for sharing this. It is true that we forget ourselves and get hypnotized by the activity of our mind and the world around us. But this activity is just peripheral like the waves, whereas the deep ocean is still.
We think that we are what we think others think we are. It’s an illusion of an illusion. If we start to witness instead if give meaning to everything we sense, perceive, and observe - then this error can be avoided.
We may find the unloving unconscious part of ourselves to be repulsive. It’s the nature of our awareness to be loving, gentle, forgiving, compassionate, and allowing. When anything is absent of that we either escape, supress, or deny it. When we find that it’s too horrible we project it into the outer world.
This inner mechanism changes when someone loves us. Our whole being is perceived to be welcomed and loved unconditionally. Even though we may hide our defects we subtly understand that we are loved totally. Now this is a temporary fixation called human live. True love is the attitude we discover by relinquishing all our downsides. The universe can’t be cheated with a temporary fixation.
I feel that we should normalise loving each part of us and being non-judgmental about it. To realise that even the non-love in us is a necessary part of human evolution will bring a huge change. It’s all about how we reframe our beliefs, thoughts, and positionalities about ourselves.
The world outside is an aid to become loving towards others, and inturn we become loving towards ourselves. All is a feedback loop, forever evolving spontaneously.
What do you think about this?
Exactly…your first priority must be you…but unfortunately people always forget themselves… to fit in the standards of others
Yeah well said. This is an observation and it is what it is. Can’t change the world, but only ourselves.
One the one hand we should follow the saying “When in Rome do what the Romans do”, but that is diplomacy born out of the current culture.
While on the other hand, below the surface our principles should add to our unique nature which comes naturally to us. Those principles we follow should be rock solid and personally tested and then adopted. It takes a certain discipline to follow principles - which point to the truth, without any exceptions. The question is how to discern true principles from false.
I feel that sometimes we can be hard on people who don’t understand or be different from what they are right now. Some aren’t fortunate to be a certain way. And some who are still live in fear, because deviating from the unconscious norms of society may feel like abandonment and eventual death for them.
