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Is it bad that a boy (brother/boyfriend/husband) would serve water or food when some friends or relatives visit? If the girl is busy or for helping her.

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sanjain

hamare ghar me toh merse se sab kaam karwate te, be it cooking , cleaning, serving, shopping, and anything and everything in between thou i am working at very high position but mom is like sab sikha k bhejungi, ladki yeh na bolo maa ne sikhaya nhi… xD

Anonymous

Last line cracked me up😂 but gharpe karna aur koi gharpe aaya ho relative ya friend tab karna is different.

sanjain

merko lag rha hai zindagi bhar karna he padega aab xD
our life partner also deserve to feel they are lucky to get us. :)
Giving red roses is not the only way to communicate you love them.

Anonymous

I agree

Anonymous

We need more men like you :)

Anonymous

Op here and I so more agree with you!! This person is a gem.

sanjain

Girl take granted when you do so much for them !
Maybe not true for all but the one i meet.
Atleast they took me !

Better to stay single and enjoy the freedom.

Anonymous

We all meet wrong people our whole life until we find our the one. Stay strong and don’t change please. Trust me you’ll find the right girl for you and she’ll be so lucky to have you

Anonymous

Ya I totally agree with you . Relationships are so messy , it’s better you stay single , love yourself and enjoy life . That’s what i believe :)

sanjain

Hope so !

But those people has somewhat changed my perception of girls.

I dont wont to judge anyone but your past always changes you as a person.

Anyways Imperfection is beauty and we are are imperfect :)

sanjain

People have lost the value of commitment…its all about “my” happniess not “our” happiness.

Aaj acha nhi lag rha ya vibes nhi aa rhe, lets change the partner. Utter nonsense !

Anonymous

Yes I totally get your point. Considering the kind of boys I have encountered in my life mostly creeps . I just love being alone .

sanjain

Tumhe yaha ache ladke nhi milte and yaha muje ache ladki nhi milte who put efforts to make things right together…

life is so unfair.

Anonymous

Ya I read it somewhere relationships are narcissistic . You want someone who will make ‘you’ happy .To some extend it is justified but i think it should work both ways . And honestly in todays world i believe most of the relationships are build on attention and attraction .That’s it.

sanjain

it should be from both the side when you put your partner on priority and also work for yourself.

These days either both don’t or its just from one side, and ultimately it ruins the person who give it all.

these days we first go into relationship and then start know each other.

and many of us are in relationship just for the sake of having one.

Ask them why you want to get into relationship, they will give stupid immature reason.

Anonymous

Can’t agree more! People are so desperate to get into a relationship.

It is a natural process you can’t plan falling in love with a person.

I find it really absurd that most people actually propose others without even talking or knowing the person. Cause of physical attraction. It’s stupid.

Anonymous

You say things have changed your perception for girls but you still want to do so much for them!! I don’t think you changed or atleast not in a bad way.

sanjain

Changed in a way like for eg

I was of the view, its my aim to give best life to my partner be it financially ( i worked my ass off for that, so in future my partner has to never think about before buying any luxury in life and also have very high respect in society). Emotionally and in every aspect of life.

Aim was to make sure she feel that she is the luckiest person in life( my career was amazing, i am very respected in friend circle, and as i mentioned i clean, cook and do all household work :p I am not poor but I am not sure why women feel happy when men do it, so just to make her happy. very very rarely we had fight, like once a few month and that was for just 10-15 min, made sure i am available and give her all my time and attention and what not.

But still people cheated, i understand choices of people change and u might not like the person after a while, you can maturely end it if needed, but cheating and lying?

so going forward i not sure i am going to do such for my partner and trust other person blindly.

Past change everyone.
I was 100x more sweeter 6 months back but not anymore.

Anonymous

Well being cheated on must suck! Anyways how are you doing now?

Anonymous

I’m in the same boat as yours. My partner cheated on me multiple times even after giving him chances again and again! But I’d still say and ik when we find the right person, it would be effortless to leave the past behind.

If you’ll be in a relationship in future…it’ll definitely be because you love her right. Now will let your girl down because someone in the past let you down? I don’t think so. Neither will I!!

Please don’t lose hope!! There is someone for all of us.

Also, cheating is never a choice!! And I’m so sorry you went through that.

Anonymous

Women only feel happy when both are working, it is obvious that both take the responsibility to look after house…that doesn’t mean even if you’ve money you’ll do all that by yourself.

sanjain

Hope we all get out perfect half :) and learnt our lesson from past.

Life always teaches you :)

sanjain

I am doing great buddy, past always flashed infront of your eyes from time to time, but it did not affect me much now.

But still i want to be simple guy who can trust her partner blindly and keep her on priority but going forward I am very much afraid, if past repeats then?

Anonymous

Honestly you must not let your past hamper your future. Sounds cliché right? But it’s really true

Just because it happened once or twice doesn’t mean will happen everytime.

If you are not gonna trust your partner because of past its gonna make things miserable again.

Take your time and build it better again. (:

sanjain

Will try too !

Not everyone is same hopefully.

but being single is also good yaar ! koi dikkat nhi hai itne.

yeah you sometimes feel lonely or can never kiss but its fine na…itne freedom…wah

Anonymous

Personally i prefer being single :)

sanjain

Indeed ! So do i ! hi-five !

Life is so fun, you meet so much amazing people.

relationship me hote toh aaj milte bi nhi…

Anonymous

Ya I believe whatever happens in life has a reason, whether it’s a person you meet or anything.
Nice talking to you :)

sanjain

Pleasure is all mine !
you changed me a bit now :)

Anonymous

Wow, so happy to hear that :)

sanjain

have we ever talked in past?
feels like

Anonymous

What do you think? Have we? :p

sanjain

lag toh rha hai ! we did for sure ! why dont you tell the truth… I m 99.99999% sure

Anonymous

Haha Yes we did :p But how did you get the feeling that we talked before ?
PS: I asked you about the office. Lol we were talking simultaneously at different places, different topics :)

sanjain

Nahi samaj aya ! ! who are you.

Anonymous

Ya we talked before . I asked you whether you have watched the office and you said money heist. Basically we have talked on this platform before.

sanjain

when you mentioned office here :p

I thought you were mentioning my job office :p

Sorry my bad, Suba suba 8 bje meeting attend karne padti hai toh dimaak usse direction me jata hai…

Anonymous

hahaha No issues . Its a struggle indeed . 😂 Life google meeting bnke reh gyi h

sanjain

you are having the same life too?

Anonymous

Yes, The only difference is I am a student .But yes I have 9 hours of continuous online classes . It is really very exhausting. Itna kaam to job m bhi nhi krna pdta yaar :(

sanjain

aaao zara job me tum, pata lagega 12-14 hr kaam karwake 30k-40k salary dete hai and salary increase at 10-15% per year at max.

That too if you get into good company.

Anonymous

I am desperate to get into a job. Seriously college m bhi kuch zada different nhi h job m atleast paise to milenge 😂

sanjain

you are clueless yaar… job me freedom nhi hai except on weekend :P

aaoo chalo job me pata lagega.

Anonymous

Yess waiting for that day 😭🤣

sanjain

hahaha, lets exchange.

Merko college jana hai u take my job :)

Anonymous

By the way, I see you are very active here on now and me. So what is it that brought you here? Just curious :)

sanjain

haha !!! I am also curious about it, still trying to figure out the answer.

Anonymous

I would love to do that. You know what it’s been a year since I started college and I have never been to college. I belong to corona batch I don’t even know how my college looks 😂

sanjain

hahah !!! thats very interesting, same is happening with my job :P

just money is real xD

Anonymous

What do like work from home or actually going to work?

sanjain

Right now work from home, kisse bi time so jaoo and utha jaoo and gha rpe kuch bi karte raho :P

I was planning ki office bulaya toh job na chordu…

Work from home is so good even for companies, they are getting so much out of their employees

Anonymous

Seriously same for the online classes, lecture lete hue khaate peete raho, phone pr songs sunlo, meeting join krke Bhaag jao, kuch aur kaam krlo. Aur exertion bhi nhi hoga travel nhi krna padega :p

I don’t know why these people are dying to have Universities opened

sanjain

paisa babu bheya paisa !!!

you can’t justify charging so much fees just for online classes.

Anonymous

Deva re deva ufff

Anonymous

No

Anonymous

Do you mind revealing your gender?

Anonymous

Boy

Anonymous

And you still think it’s not wrong!! Wow

Anonymous

This is an illogical question for me & most of the boys unless he belongs to some stereotype family.

Anonymous

You are right

Anonymous

Not at all!!

Anonymous

And what of my friends judge me for this? They believe in equality and all but as soon as I brought up this they were like ye toh bohot zyada ho gaya itna toh nai hona chahiye pura western jesa toh nai ho skta yaha…mtlb one side they believe in helping and all and one side this.

Anonymous

Logo ka kya h… Kuch to log kahenge logo ka kaam hai kehna…
Don’t listen to them.

Anonymous

Should I try to talk to them about this or just laugh it off?

Anonymous

Just laugh!!

s

Big no! In fact my mom makes to do all such formal stuff with other work, whats shameful in that?

Anonymous

That’s so so great. Guess I need to change my company.

s

Didn’t get you? Wouldn’t it be worthy to help them change their mindset?
Is changing the company a good solution in long run? In the next person there must be something which you wouldn’t like so will you look for another person again?

Anonymous

Nahi mtlb thoda ese logo se bhi milna jinka similar mindset ho I helps in many many things. Inse cutoff nai…and Haa dusre insaan mai shayad kuch aur pasand naa aay you are right but still friendship with same mentality peopla and peopla sharing same morals and values still hits different uk😅
And unke mindset ko change karna wouldn’t always bring positive results…what if they get offended?

s

Agreed, similar logo ke sath acchese banti hai, what I’m trying to say is we cannot always find the person with whom we connect at 100%, there will be always something which would not be opposite to our mindset, so I always think ki saamne wale ko acchese samjhao ya fir thoda sa khud hi adjust karlo
If the other person gets offended then apologize, think what different approach can you take to convey your thoughts, worst case is the one where you cut off a little. After a certain point in life you will be hardly able to connect to new people so one needs to adjust. So if you have many people around you then there’s no problem you can
But I feel cutting off early is quite an inappropriate method because sometimes the other person does not get aware of their mistakes…

Anonymous

Yes you are right. Thank you so much

Anonymous

see, first of all, it’s not ‘helping’ you since all of you share the house and should do the work.
It’s the duty of all of you and not just you.

Anonymous

I agree!!