I’m unable to put in words what I’m feeling. I’m married to my 11yrs boyfriend from past 8months. Ive been through depression twice and tried to attempt suicide thrice in last 8months. I’ve been through alot to convince my parents for this marriage. My mother in law was all cool n ok with this marriage but somehow she tortures me everyday with her words. Its been 8months and daily there is something or other and she makes me feel I’m worthless and i don’t deserve anything. Ive made to feel like shit. 2months back my Blood pressure reached 48. All because of depression and tension. My father in law already passed away. And that is the reason my husband doesn’t utter a word against my MIL but that doesnt mean she continues to torture me everyday.
Janmesh @janmesh
Hey i’m so sorry you’re going through all this! But Suicide is not an option and never will be! You should try fighting for it and keep sharing the things with your trusted friend! if you don’t share things will keep bottling and suicidal thoughts will be generated or may be sometimes you’ll feel irritated or you’ll become short tempered! All this can slowly go away if you start talking and sharing:)
Thanks for ur concern. I try to talk to my husband but doesnt work. And friends and all are too busy with their lives.
Janmesh @janmesh
If you need a friend to talk and share things i can be one :)
You can contact me offsite whenever you feel like talking!
First of all take deep breaths and relax! I’m here if you need to talk.
As I can understand your situation I would suggest you to talk to your husband about this entire situation and what you feel about it. Be frank and straight forward with him. Talk about everything and then you both can figure out things. Your husband loves you and he will surely understand. He can talk to his mother and make things better for everyone in the house. Give it a try. Hope it helps.
Yup. I have tried. But he says he’s helpless as she’s a single mother and we both together tried confronting her but everytime things went out of our control as she used to throw tantrums and wouldn’t talk to me for weeks. And so on. I hope god finds out some way out of this for me. Thank u for ur concern.
Adesh @maveric1adesh
if you can make yourself free and go out for holiday do that. make yourself financially independent as MIL will feel fear to torture that you will leave home if he did that every day. try to create fear in her mind. if you keep listening and taking it for granted you’ll suffer for way long term. suicide is not an option. your life is very important. out their people want life but you have already.
Go out make yourself happy. read books, travel, listen to music, write poetry, listen to poetry, watch movies, eat a variety of food. try to make yourself happy on your own. make friends.
tip: talk loudly as they’ll think you have the courage to talk back.
I’m already financially independent. Went out twice for holiday. Many times went to my house (mayka) just to refresh my mind. I have tried your tip also talking loudly but nothing works with her. Next day she finds something else .
But I’ll try to ignore her.
We hardly spend me 6hrs in day together. But those 6hrs are worst part of my day.
