I'm talking to my ex and I'm confused i don't want to talk but I'm still talking idk what to do about this 

Well i did block but again i felt guilty once for leaving her so my therapist convinced me to talk to her so that you have closure but it's eating me out

Exhausted

I have a question on my mind and i want you all to answer it.

Recently I told you that there was a guy in my life with whom I was not dating but we were more than friends. I was interested on him after on our very first talk. At that time, i was going through a breakup and the guy I like now, he knows about my breakup. After sometime, my ex came back and asked me to wait for him regarding marriage. I agreed to my ex to wait for him but he left me after an argument so I decided not to go back to him. I told this to the guy I like. Hardly a week after, I realised I love this guy. So I confessed my feelings to him. He said he loves me too. 

Now the problem is, he keeps talking about s@x most of the time which I don't like. I have told him about this but he keeps insisting it in some or the other way. His pros is that he asks about my mental health too and my other problems too. But he doesn't want to commit to me as he wishes to focus on his career or provide any relationship security and still wants to be more than friends and talk about s@x related things.

I am being as friends with him now and asked him to be with me as friends. It's not really working, i get jealous when he talks to multiple girls.

3am Thoughts

I need advice on something. I have this friend with whom I've been very close to for the last 3 years. He moved to England last year to study his Masters. Honestly, I was horrible to him for a while because I realized I was in love with him and needed space to let go of my feelings. But, I now feel so angry all the time because he won't answer my texts and phone calls. He has a new job which I know is very demanding, still I feel like he is actively avoiding me, and that I messed everything up. I know I have to let go, give him space and trust the Cosmos that if we are meant to remain friends, it will happen. Anyway, any advice? 

Friends

i'm feeling really confused today...
i just turned 17 last month and since then every problem I've been trying to hide is just coming at me with force....i feel really unstable and lost
first its my addiction, second my studies, third its family issues and its killing me. next is my love life. my boyfriend is going to the university, he's school is way too far from me and i wouldn't see him for the next 3 months.😔 its already a long distance relationship but this time its really hitting me hard. he is always suppressing my depression but him this far, i might get back to thinking again and definitely my addiction to drugs with emerge..💊

Addiction

I went to a restaurant with my boyfriend and he was acting very nervous and in front of me he said that :when that whore will come to bring us food?and in another day he also commented very ugly words about another waitress and even did not like the bread and took the bread in his hand ,squeezed it and threw it a bit further on the table and said that the bread is too soft and when the waitress comed he said to her that he doesnt like the eggs that they are not hot but cold and the eggs has to be in a glass and showed to the waitress a picture and she responded to him that they just simple boil the eggs and in that restaurant they dont put the eggs in a glass and she doesnt know where he seen that but during their conversation he was aggresive with her and she asked him to calm down and told him that if he wants she may boil the eggs again and give him hot eggs and explained that they are a bit colder because they were in cold water in order to make for him easier to clean an eggshell.Now,when in another day again while we were in a restaurant he kept saying to me that the waitress is a bitch and was acting nervous I asked him to stop acting like that and calling her names and he did that again and I took a glass of clean water and throw it on his tshirt(not face but tshirt)and asked him to calm down and stop calling that girl ugly names (I did that because he was acting with no respect towards her and this pissed me off-even if she didnt hear his comments I am still a woman and for me in unpleasant when a man is doing that) and when I did that to him with clean water he called me a fucking bitch and said wtf you did ,how could you dare do throw the water at me …and I said you better eat alone and he said fuck you and I went outside from that restaurant and left him there(I really could not eat with him because his behavior and comments about waitress made me nervous) …do you think I did right or my behavior was very ugly?I would really appreciate some honest opinion,thank you….do you think I should go back to him cause he said that he is sorry but I feel something is wrong here…what is your opinion?

Relationships

Idk if something like this should be pursued

A guy and I became friends online, we had mutuals. Kept talking over time and became besties. Had lots in common, similar fields, life views etc. 

Feelings developed, confession happened, but it didn't work out. Twice.There were always other people in the background (mostly on his end).

Anyway my question now, as has been from day 1, is that a situation/ equation like this is valid? It feels scary to me no, as a woman and even manipulative considering that he was the one who initiated and pursued the connection first. 

Asking because something similar might happen again with a new guy and I don't wanna repeat my mistakes!

Confusion

Hi, just wanna share my feelings here.

I just got dumped 2 days ago to the one who I thought would be my home someday. We have been together for 5 years 5 months but ended on May 2020. We lived in the same town for few years and 2019 was the year he moved out so we've been ldr since then. I did tried to make things right again but it didn't turn out as I expected. Sept 2020 he got a new gf and it really makes me mad and sad too just how does he can replace me in such a way. I blocked him in every socmed. I really tried to get back up again eventhough I feel like hell. I cried almost every night thinking about how good the old days I had with him and seeing him will be doing all the things with her new partner. Until for few weeks I just keep pushing myself to be better. I just spend a lot of time with my friends and family until on 8 Dec 2020 he texted me said that he missed me even by that time he still with his girl.  I  did reply and told him he should be missing his gf and not me. We just had a short conversation after that day until that one day he went to my town with his family, I did not expect to met him that day in the mall, I did tried to walk away but he saw me and his sister too. I got nowhere to run so I just walk straight and hug his mother cause almost a year we haven't met. It just feel nice seeing his family still treating me good, we had our chat for a while before we say goodbye. I just could saw his eyes before I turn my back and start to walk. So I decided to unblock him in whatsapp and told him I didn't expect to saw him and his family again but Im glad cause still have the chance to met his parents, I really missed them a lot too. But that night he suddenly treating me good until gave me a picture of him. I was a bit shocked cause he can do such thing behind his gf. Since then, there might be times he would texted me and I just sometimes reply in short kind of not interested way and theres times I ignore them too until that 31 Dec 2020, I gave him a picture of a cat doll he ever gave me back in 2015 cause its been missing for few months too. He suddenly said the he loves me and would call me that night and I just seen his chat.

That night, 1 Jan 2021 everything just come back to normal. He called me and explained everything about how much he missed me, how stupid he is taking so long to realized that his heart been wanting me back, we talked for so long until almost 5 in the morning, after few months being stranger we suddenly got back just like that. He said he wanted me back and I said you just gotta choose between me and the girl cause I dont want to be in a relationship with someone's lover. The next morning, he broke up with the girl and told me he want us to be together again. I was still not believe by that time he could just made the decision right away and he said that because his feelings was not true for her since the girl was the one who started everyhthing and ask him to become his bf. Well ofcourse there times his ex would texted him and so on but he just treated her as the way it should be that not more than a friend.

We stayed together until June 2021, we through some hard times as well as good times too. I believed in all everything he said, what we promised, what we had planned together, I even start saving my money for him cause we did made a promise to make it official in this upcoming 2 years but suddenly out of nowhere he changed. 27 June 2021, he told me that he has losing his feelings for me but he haven't giving up yet. I was so speechless when read it on whatsapp so I give him a call and I asked him if I did anything wrong, if theres anything that looks like its not enough, did I hurt him in ways that I didnt realized and so much more but all he could said it was nothing wrong with me, its really from his own heart,  he feels empty, feels like wanted to be alone, to focus more on his own. I was devastated like how fucking can for almost 6 months he just can easily walk away without any feelings towards me. I just couldn't talk much and respect his decision cause I dont want to be in a place where to be forcing our other half to love us back. I just couldn't bear the feelings I felt in started to cry my heart out in front of my family. I just felt like how could I loved someone so much, trusted him and made him special but all I get was this in the end.

I was crying so much that night thinking back how foolish I am thinking he was true. He just came back just to broke me again. Tear my heart into pieces all over again. He was my first love but I never knew he would also be the one that could do this to me again. I dont know just how could he made me feel this way again. I had to heal myself from zero again, it was fucking hard, so damn hard to restart everything. I thought we could end this together but turns out he choose to left me again...


Breakup

I loved a boy since my childhood, later I came to know he loved me more, we got into relationship later. I was very happy. But i was very committed to studies, career, so i limited my interaction.. And after few years I stopped talking to him because I had some physical health conditions which I could tell no one about. I was deepressed and was under medications for two years. Our communication stopped and meanwhile he moved on with another girl. I was shocked, he loved me so much, I can't describe, he was so serious about us. Should he had waited for me?  I can't forget him,. I feel like my heart aches so much when I see him with his girlfriend.. What do i do? I feel like dying. 

is it okay to send "<3" five days into ur relationship bc i did that and he left me on read. but also the message thread was kinda like. "goodnight" "goodnight" "see u tmrw :)" "see u tmrw <3" that was like 100% extra it did not need a heart. im worried hes not like a <3 type of guy and he would get weirded out😭

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