I’m so stressed about school cause the amount of pressure my family is putting on me is wayyyyy too much for me, I just want to self harm honestly, im seeking that numb feeling even tho i know the consequences are bad
Make your family understand that you are doing your best… Nd so much pressure from them can lead you to depression and you can’t handle that… It will affect your study as well as you… Jst keep calm and focus on positive things in your life.
If I aint getting all A’s then im a disappointment and failure to them and a disgrace
Communicate with your family and tell them that marks are not everything… Everyone has their own ability… Nd still u r giving ur 100% but don’t pressurize for marks… Give them examples of people… Nd tell them about ur insecurities…hope ur parents will understand u… All the best
I feel you dude and I’ve been through the whole family pressure when it comes to school, and what I know and have learnt is that if you don’t tell your family that all the pressure from them is getting too much, then they would of course never know and you’d be left alone to fend for yourself.
Here’s what I think will help - Tell a member who might understand you( your mom or your sibling if you have any) and tell them that all this pressure is getting too much and you would love it if they don’t always talk about school and it related stress. Tell them you could do better if you don’t have people talking school every day.
Also I know this numb feeling can make you feel that there’s no way other than self harm but please don’t do it. Consider me as a friend and just don’t do it, and if you feel like it, just remember how you would regret harming yourself for the pressure put on you by others. It’s your body and you should not suffer for no fault of yours.
Also take a few deep breaths first, talk to someone( a close friend maybe) who might understand. I know it may be hard to open up but once you do, you’ll feel alot more peaceful from within and everything will be fine :D
The fact that i tried so many times just wants me to give up on trying anymore, i tried so much with my family they end up stopping for a few days then back again to their old habits
The one thing you can do is ignore all the stressful comments for your own mental peace. Or talk to someone in your family your friend group ( cousin or close friend) who really listens to you and hears you and understands you. Sometimes just sharing your problem might help too.
In the end of the day, what really matters is that you know that you’ve done your best and you’re trying your hardest and you’re efforts are not ignored if you’re proud of yourself and you really know yourself first that you’re trying and it matters to you. Even if it seems like no one sees you and understands you, just believe that you are proud of your efforts, after all you have gotta be there for yourself!
P. S. I hope it does help and I believe in you and I know things are gonna be alright. Just don’t lose hope and everything will be alright. Also I hope that I could help a little :D
i understand what are you going through cause my family also puts lot of pressure on me,but i know that its just for my own sake, ,cause they know that they won’t be forever with us to support both mentally and financially,so as a young one we may understand that its a lot of thing to take in,but this is for our own good,if we become suuccessful in life they won’t get anything,they are putting pressure on us to make ourselves independent, my parents want me to be an independent, strong lady who doesn’t need a man to fulfil her needs[I mean her day to day needs] by some sort of deal known as marriage in which we have to be dependent on our partner for seeking financial help.
i hope i could make you understand the reason for your family putting a lot of pressure on you,and please don’t self harm yourself
i know life can be tough specially in teenage years,but its important to overcome them and be the best version of ourselves and be a living example for all out there who are suffering from the same problem.
I understand that and I really know that they are doing this for my sake but grades isn’t whats gonna make me successful, its not all about grades some people get terrible grades but work on their selves until they become successful, i shouldn’t be going through so much and didn’t get the best grades this year just because my mental health was not in a great place this year and i was dealing with so much, they make me feel ashamed and a disappointment just because I didn’t get all A’s
then i guess just talk to them thats the best solution and try to convince them that its too much to handle and assure them that they can trust you
Hey wanna talk it we can talk in a private space (means talking privately ) where you can tell me everything and it will be safe and I wanna help you. 😊 Okay
Dear…I have been through this and I can garuntee u ur studies marks and all that bullshit are not worth ur life …u r much more than that…I am myself been a victim of this…I had entrance coaching and it was hell being honest …I was depressed and emotional stability was non existent …I remember once I was so desparate to talk and I was going back the next day to that hostel ( coaching+ school) and j searched for online help and I don’t know I trud many nimbers given on internet and finally someone picked…I wasn’t even able to read anything written on net since ma eyes were blurred with all the years …I don’t know who it was…but he was a saviour…ma family would never approve on spending money on mental health…but I needed that on that day… talking it out…he told me his own story that he had tried repeated twice and now when it looks back…he can tell that life is more than that…u r more than that…u have immense capabilities…just don’t feel low cause of studies…it wil all fall into place…have faith…u r important…u r precious…u r worth much more…I would be really happy if ma words could help u …tc
