I’m in love with a girl. We dated for a couple months but things got too overwhelming for both of us, and we decided to call it quits. I’ve not stopped thinking about her since but I’m not so sure she feels the same way, or that she’s in the right headspace for a relationship right now. I’m really worried that by doing nothing I’ll end up having it as a regret in my future but at the same time she made me quite depressed at the end. I want her to come to talk to me to talk out what happens but I don’t want her to do that because I’ve asked her to - I want her to because she wants to. I told her we probably shouldn’t talk unless she needs me for her mental health or if she wants to try again. I will reiterate though, I can’t help but wonder ‘what would I do if she died, and I’d said nothing’. But perhaps by doing nothing I’m saving myself more grief. Do I just wait for something to happen or prompt something? I feel both are hard af, but I’m slowly getting to grips with being past her, but AGAIN - I don’t want this as a regret of not saying something. Thanks in advance x
i’ll make this short, life is too short to be holding back my friend. You speak your truths and your speak it with conviction. Go tell her how you feel. I know you said that you want her to come on her own terms but, what if she never will? To not have all these what ifs, you take initiative and you speak your truths king. Nothing wrong with voicing how u feel and wanting to talk things out
Perhaps, I just can’t lose her again though. If I didn’t have to feel pain, I’d be at her doorstep right now. But I don’t know if it’s what she wants. And if she doesn’t, then I look a damn fool for not moving on x
