I’m in a relationship for the past 2 years and recently we have been fighting a lot. After every fight, I end up breaking up and after a few hours I realise that I shouldn’t have. This has happened for more than 10 times and now my partner feels I’m unstable. I don’t get it that why is this happening. Everytime we fight, breakup is the first thing in my mind. It seems like nothing can help us and then I regret it. Someone please tell me why is this happening?
Love is difficult. Try to feel whether you guys have a future or not. If you sense that feeling, hold on to each other.Fighting is okay as long as you communicate and fix things afterwards between each other(not involving anyone from outside). Loving someone is difficult, be grateful with this fact when you know someone loves you. Not everyone is that much fortunate!!
We are good. We do understand each other. But at the moment we’re fighting, it seems like this is it. I can’t take this in my life anymore. Like I get impulsive, you know? And he is sick of hearing the term breakup now. I broke up an hour ago and I wanna say sorry but I can’t face him anymore. I feel ashamed. I keep doing this to him…
Take a break with each other for sometime. Be each other’s friend again… not everything has to be romantic all the time. If you are each others friend first, this too shall pass. If you feel leaving other is going to help, try that as well but I think you guys will have real trouble staying in no-contact. Trust me, that thing breaks you from inside if you truly loved someone. In your case, give yours some apart time. See if you are more happy and peaceful being without each other. Remember during this phase, you both will wish to reach out to each other again and again, Talk about those things beforehand!!
Thanks a ton, I’ll really consider this.
You should try to communicate more openly… mostly in relationships we hide some or the other things unknowingly! Tty to share everything to each other without judging. Let all the guilts flow out and don’t judge don’t give advice nothing!
yes, thank you
I guess, you guys should take a break- you need to figure out your emotions- this is very crucial in every relationship, because you will always end up doing the same thing which is not healthy, neither for you nor fir your relationship.
Take your time off from your partner, indulge yourself in the activities that you like- and figure out.
Talk to you partner and ask for help, give time to yourself and you will eventually feel better and then nothing will cloud your judgment.
Hope it helps. Hope whatever you decide, you stay happy.
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Yea maybe…
Thank you so much!
I’ll speak from your partner’s place.
I was in the same place too. My expartner used to breakup every fight. Used to verbally abuse every fight. And with the stretch of time, it got so repetitive that i started losing myself. It got so traumatising. And it hurt so much that the one person who’s supposed to do me right is messing up my head. He kept doing that inspite of telling him that it hurts. And i was pushed to a point where i started to believe that I’m worthless and i deserved to be abandoned and left behind. For 2 years and more, he did this to me. And i did lose myself. And i also did lose interest and i fell out of love.
I realised that its not me, its him. He doesnt know what he wants and he is making me go insane. And for a person who doesnt appreciate the chances or the value of some person keeping up with his shit, doesnt deserve me. I left.
This might exactly be the way your partner might be feeling.
And as for you, like everyone said, take a break.
Figure what you want. Figure out if you fell out of love.
If it is not him, then let him go. Let him live his life. If it is him, respect his emotions and try to fix what you’ve broken. And never let go of someone who still wants you even if you did them wrong.
And its okay. Its okay to do mistakes girl. But whats not okay is doing the same mistake.
:( I feel terrible. Thank you so much. I really needed to know this! I’ll take some time and see what exactly is going wrong. I don’t want to lose him, he’s perfect.
It’s okay. See girl, what happened, happened.
Don’t beat yourself up about it, okay?
You just know in your guts that you want him.
All you gotta do is keep him close. Don’t push him away just cause you are angry. Okay?
People like him are rare to find. And hats off to you for being able to own up your faults and wanting to fix it right.
You both will be okay:)
Thanks a ton, I’ll surely work on it. :)
