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I’m in a dilemma. Need someone to talk to about the same.

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@ariya
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Hi, you can talk to me.

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Anonymous
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Is it fine for you to talk on some other platform? Insta or snap?

@sniggy
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You can share your thoughts . we’re here to listen

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Anonymous
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I’d be more comfortable elsewhere.

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Simran @st1199

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Hi!
What’s up?

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Anonymous
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Hey! I’m confused

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Simran @st1199

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Shoot, what’s happening?

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Anonymous
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There’s this guy I met online. We used to talk and eventually he developed feelings for me. But I didn’t because we are completely different and I don’t feel that way about him. But I turned him down politely and then we became really close friends. This happened a year ago. He’s still into me and I’m completely aware of this fact which is why I’m still a friend of him. But I think I’m not completely okay with being friends with him because he stays in a constant sad mood, everytime I talk to him he starts talking depressing things. It has started affecting my mental health bcoz I can’t pretend to be okay with it. I know he’s in a dark place right now and I cheer him up constantly. But now I don’t feel like talking to him or even replying to him coz I somehow feel mentally sick. There’s no spark in our friendship. It’s just for the sake of being friends, I’m still holding on to it. I can’t tell him these things bcoz right now he’s only got me whom he can say things to. I don’t know what to do. Please help.

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Simran @st1199

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So, I understand your position. And, it’s good that you are there to help him out.
Try in an indirect way to put your point forward?

Before this, depressing talks as in he has his problems of life or in general a habit of being sad about small things?
If it’s the latter, then you can put it directly not a problem!

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Anonymous
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He gets sad about petty things. I make him understand what his point of focus should be but still he just cribs about things unnecessarily. I don’t know how to start telling this to him bcoz lately he’s been ignored by all his friends and he’s got some fam issues too. So it’s just me who he talks to. I’m afraid that if I do the same with him, it’ll hurt him beyond the amount that I think.

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Simran @st1199

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Understood your point. There are some people like that who look on the negative side rather than the positive things and can’t be done really anything to change that.

Then, you will have to be there till he gets a little bit settle. Why do his other friends ignore him? Because of the same reason?
Also, I feel if it is affecting your mental health, some action needs to be taken because you can’t be nor should be available the whole time for him, you know? There should be a line drawn and you make that if there isn’t already.

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Anonymous
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I understand your point. I don’t know why his other friends ignore him.

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Simran @st1199

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Maybe talk to him and ask the same, it’ll help you understand the reasons.

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Anonymous
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Yess, thankyou so much!

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Simran @st1199

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@solivagant
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Hey! Wanna talk?

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Anonymous
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Yeah

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Piya @piyakaurbajaj

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Here for you!

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Anonymous
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How should I politely turn someone down or come out of a friendship?

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Piya @piyakaurbajaj

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Be honest and communicate with respect. Tell them you have things of our own happening right now and you need time and space. Tell them you were lucky to have them and what you admire about them.

I hope this helps

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