Hi, you can talk to me.
Is it fine for you to talk on some other platform? Insta or snap?
You can share your thoughts . weβre here to listen
Iβd be more comfortable elsewhere.
Simran @st1199
Hi!
Whatβs up?
Hey! Iβm confused
Simran @st1199
Shoot, whatβs happening?
Thereβs this guy I met online. We used to talk and eventually he developed feelings for me. But I didnβt because we are completely different and I donβt feel that way about him. But I turned him down politely and then we became really close friends. This happened a year ago. Heβs still into me and Iβm completely aware of this fact which is why Iβm still a friend of him. But I think Iβm not completely okay with being friends with him because he stays in a constant sad mood, everytime I talk to him he starts talking depressing things. It has started affecting my mental health bcoz I canβt pretend to be okay with it. I know heβs in a dark place right now and I cheer him up constantly. But now I donβt feel like talking to him or even replying to him coz I somehow feel mentally sick. Thereβs no spark in our friendship. Itβs just for the sake of being friends, Iβm still holding on to it. I canβt tell him these things bcoz right now heβs only got me whom he can say things to. I donβt know what to do. Please help.
Simran @st1199
So, I understand your position. And, itβs good that you are there to help him out.
Try in an indirect way to put your point forward?
Before this, depressing talks as in he has his problems of life or in general a habit of being sad about small things?
If itβs the latter, then you can put it directly not a problem!
He gets sad about petty things. I make him understand what his point of focus should be but still he just cribs about things unnecessarily. I donβt know how to start telling this to him bcoz lately heβs been ignored by all his friends and heβs got some fam issues too. So itβs just me who he talks to. Iβm afraid that if I do the same with him, itβll hurt him beyond the amount that I think.
Simran @st1199
Understood your point. There are some people like that who look on the negative side rather than the positive things and canβt be done really anything to change that.
Then, you will have to be there till he gets a little bit settle. Why do his other friends ignore him? Because of the same reason?
Also, I feel if it is affecting your mental health, some action needs to be taken because you canβt be nor should be available the whole time for him, you know? There should be a line drawn and you make that if there isnβt already.
I understand your point. I donβt know why his other friends ignore him.
Simran @st1199
Maybe talk to him and ask the same, itβll help you understand the reasons.
Yess, thankyou so much!
Simran @st1199
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Hey! Wanna talk?
Yeah
Piya @piyakaurbajaj
Here for you!
How should I politely turn someone down or come out of a friendship?
Piya @piyakaurbajaj
Be honest and communicate with respect. Tell them you have things of our own happening right now and you need time and space. Tell them you were lucky to have them and what you admire about them.
I hope this helps