I’m in a deep state of vulnerability. Neither my career is settling down nor my love life is going smooth. On the top of that my family has started finding matches for me. Even after convincing them a lot they are not ready to listen. My partner is also unstable in his career. We both want a secure career before we both take our relationship to next stage. What should I do? I’m swinging between all this.
Both Just focus on careers first & get decent packages and they try to convey your relationship to your families.
There is time constrain. My family wants me to get married and this is creating more difficulties.
E T @e_t
Its your life. Not your parents, so be bold and talk your parents abour your relationship. Convince them .
They are emotionally exhausted both my siblings have failed love marriages. That’s why they want me to marry the person of their choice.
curious boy @lazerstreax
You know I feel you are trying too hard…you just need to change the way you look those events, what I will suggest is just break your problems one by one and think how to solve it one at a time ,just don’t try to solve everything all at once…if you ask me the problem which I will aim at solving first is your parents finding matches for you…now how do I do it? Just sit peacefully in a corner and think what are your available options infront of you…what can you do here? And I am 120 percent confident you will have your answers
I’ve tried doing that but have always failed.
E T @e_t
What if their choice is wrong? Listen, if you have confidence about your partner you need to speak strong. Don’t think about anything. Bcoz you are the person whose getting married… not your parents or sibblings. Its your life dear.
curious boy @lazerstreax
See the position you are in the only way that Is the best is to convince your parents…now to do that just think of the things by their perspectives and see why they are doing that…and can you assure those things to them in anyway if you can then the problem is solved
My parents has a lot of social pressure. I belong to a strong patriarchal family. I’ve believe on my partner but I fear on my parents reaction. As we both are not stable right now and my parents have a lots and lots of expectations from me. I really don’t know how to make everything work
E T @e_t
Don’t get fear about your parents action. Most of the parents only care about how this society sees them, not about their children’s happiness. At some point they will leave you too. So you have to decide your life.
Akshat @alfakilo47
You are lucky that inspite of having such problems you have one partner and another partner is in pursuit… 😂 😂 There are people who have don’t have any partner… 😂 😂 You have two… 😂 😂
dildil661 @foxxx
Just let it go !! Don’t do anything take everything as it comes. Don’t exhaust yourself with thinking so much about stuff if it’s real it’ll happen no matter what your family says.
Stu @gilheri
Tried doing so but not working
It might be the last thing you want to hear but sometimes parents are right. Not always but sometimes. Not been in exact same situation like you but kind of similar, i can say that I was wrong to not to trust them. Maybe because their way was not right i became a kind of rebel and it hurts now. So maybe you should let it go with flow if there’s nothing you can do right now.
