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Anonymous

I’m in a deep state of vulnerability. Neither my career is settling down nor my love life is going smooth. On the top of that my family has started finding matches for me. Even after convincing them a lot they are not ready to listen. My partner is also unstable in his career. We both want a secure career before we both take our relationship to next stage. What should I do? I’m swinging between all this.

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Anonymous

Both Just focus on careers first & get decent packages and they try to convey your relationship to your families.

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Anonymous

There is time constrain. My family wants me to get married and this is creating more difficulties.

E T @e_t

Its your life. Not your parents, so be bold and talk your parents abour your relationship. Convince them .

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Anonymous

They are emotionally exhausted both my siblings have failed love marriages. That’s why they want me to marry the person of their choice.

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curious boy @lazerstreax

You know I feel you are trying too hard…you just need to change the way you look those events, what I will suggest is just break your problems one by one and think how to solve it one at a time ,just don’t try to solve everything all at once…if you ask me the problem which I will aim at solving first is your parents finding matches for you…now how do I do it? Just sit peacefully in a corner and think what are your available options infront of you…what can you do here? And I am 120 percent confident you will have your answers

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Anonymous

I’ve tried doing that but have always failed.

E T @e_t

What if their choice is wrong? Listen, if you have confidence about your partner you need to speak strong. Don’t think about anything. Bcoz you are the person whose getting married… not your parents or sibblings. Its your life dear.

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curious boy @lazerstreax

See the position you are in the only way that Is the best is to convince your parents…now to do that just think of the things by their perspectives and see why they are doing that…and can you assure those things to them in anyway if you can then the problem is solved

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Anonymous

My parents has a lot of social pressure. I belong to a strong patriarchal family. I’ve believe on my partner but I fear on my parents reaction. As we both are not stable right now and my parents have a lots and lots of expectations from me. I really don’t know how to make everything work

E T @e_t

Don’t get fear about your parents action. Most of the parents only care about how this society sees them, not about their children’s happiness. At some point they will leave you too. So you have to decide your life.

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Akshat @alfakilo47

You are lucky that inspite of having such problems you have one partner and another partner is in pursuit… 😂 😂 There are people who have don’t have any partner… 😂 😂 You have two… 😂 😂

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Shivay @shivay2595

Heyyy are you alright.
Try talking to your parents and your partner also. Tell them how you are feeling and try to make them understand

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Anonymous

I’ve tried doing that but I don’t know how to balance.

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Shivay @shivay2595

See I understand that both yoy and your partner are not stable in your jobs. But since you both earn and are willing to marry. Then talk with each other. And get married in court.
And see now you both are struggling but maybe after 1-2 years you both get good pays ans the life will be good.
You have to do struggle in initial days. And when you both love each other so much. Then just not marrying because of less income is not the best thing to do.

dildil661 @foxxx

Just let it go !! Don’t do anything take everything as it comes. Don’t exhaust yourself with thinking so much about stuff if it’s real it’ll happen no matter what your family says.

Stu @gilheri

Tried doing so but not working

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Anonymous

It might be the last thing you want to hear but sometimes parents are right. Not always but sometimes. Not been in exact same situation like you but kind of similar, i can say that I was wrong to not to trust them. Maybe because their way was not right i became a kind of rebel and it hurts now. So maybe you should let it go with flow if there’s nothing you can do right now.

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