I’m feeling so useless this lately. Not good enough. Incompetent. Feeling rejected. Alone. Helpless. I want to cry it out badly, but I can’t. I want to share this feelings with somebody, but I don’t want to be a burden. I want to be heard, but I guess it will be better if I just share those things with some strangers. I can’t even tell my family when I got panic attack. I can’t tell people that I’m not okay. I have reputation to maintain…and I’m in the middle of completing my graduate school. I don’t want to quit schooling but I have no energy to continue what I’m doing right now. I don’t know what should I do next.
Hey!
I can totally understand your thoughts pal!
I have kinda been there.
It’s so annoying, all these feelings, but even you know, you gotta snap out of it. coz you gotta make your life, isn’t it?
If you want to share your feelings, you know you got this platform right?
no one is gonna judge you here. you will have people who might have gone through the approx. the same thing as you and would be able to help you out of it.
And tbh, I do think we have to sometimes suppress our emotions and feelings to move on. Some things are better left unsaid.
so decide what you want to talk about and what are the things you want to tell strangers like us who could help you out!
I hope you have a great day and your introspection leads you right!
You are amazing, worthy, beautiful, smart and talented. You are more than enough, and if you are rejected, that their loss, not yours. Let me tell you a secret; reputation? it’s bullshit. Horse shit, cow shit, any animal you want, it’s shit. Your reputation is what people think you should be, and there is so much more to you than what people perceive, I promise you that. Be true to yourself and your heart. This is a bit of a silly song, but it’s message always helps me https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9p__WmyAE3g If you listen to it, remember you’re the Prince Charming (or Princess Charming or just Royal Who Is Charming :D) honestly, just take a break. Let your soul heal! Take at least 2 days off, colour in, dance, sing, bake, exercise, watch TV, read, talk to friends. Just take it easy and forget your responsibilities for the day. Recover. Then face what you can when you’re ready. I really hope this helps you, sorry if it doesn’t!
I hear how painful that is through your words. I also know a bit about how that might feel because I too have been there. I struggled with that and I got through it. I know you will, too. There is hope.
You’ve exhibited great courage in taking the first step by reaching out. By explaining what you’re undergoing, you have identified the potential markers of where this social discomfort is coming from and this is extremely important.
I’m not a licensed medical professional so please take the below suggestions with a pinch of salt that can perhaps point you in the right direction.
DO:
Engage on platforms where you can voice your opinion. It’s not always easy to speak without being judged. One can’t speak to anyone for the sake of speaking. But there’s a need to speak up what’s going on in your mind. It’s always a good idea to reach out to someone with a similar mindset or experience. And this is where reaching out on a platform such as Now&Me is very useful. You can engage with individuals who are willing to help you out or maybe just listen to you. You don’t have to reveal who you are. Just reveal what’s going on in your mind and get ready to feel lighter.
Try and talk to your loved ones. Your loved ones can range from your parents, partners, siblings, friends, or anyone with whom you feel comfortable speaking to. They are the ones whom you can trust and speak up without any fear.
Meditation may also help. But to what extent and the related practises is outside the scope of the general suggestions. Maybe you can do independent research and let us know.
Exercise - We’ve all have heard about the benefits of exercising but how is it related to the expression of feelings by introverts? Well, it is related in the way that exercise releases good hormones in the body leading to a positive feeling in the body.
DON’T:
Don’t suppress your thoughts totally as that can cause additional harm to your mental health.
Hope the above helps. I know it’s a bit of a read but I’ve been there and know what that feels like. You are an amazing human being and sometimes we just need to be reminded of that from time to time. Remember once again - we’re here for you.
