I'm feeling so insecure.  My husband had a emotional affair about 2 1/2 years ago. Now I found out he had a physical affair about a week ago. These are with 2 different people.  I found out about it because the other person found me on Facebook and sent me the text messages between them. He said he loves me and doesn't want to leave me. However my self esteem is shattered.  I feel betrayed, hurt, disrespected,  and alone all at the same time. Any advice would be appreciated and helpful. Thank u.

We had a long conversation. His reasoning was he was under a lot of stress at work (I know this to be true, but its still no excuse) and I haven't been as attentive.  And no I haven't been. Part of the reason is because he treated me more like a friend. No romance, little sweet nothings, no little sly smiles, u know what I mean. Like I told him if you spoke to me in the same manner u spoke to her I would definitely be more attentive.  I like those things too. He did end the relationship before I found out. He told me this and so did she. As a matter of fact contacting me was her revenge on him. He said he ended it because he realized he was making a mistake and wants to be with me. Yes we have a child who's starting their senior year this fall. However I am so hurt and betrayed.  I'm having a hard time coming to terms with the shock that he could do this to me. 

Your correct. Everyone makes mistakes and we aren't all perfect. He has been trying to be more kind. He sends me little sweet messages through out the day when hes at work. He has been trying to be better I can tell. It's just I'm so hurt and I dont trust him. However I do feel the feelings are still there on both sides.

Ask yourself..what do you need?are you happy?do you see a future with him? this might help i hope 

Lonely

Any Lawyer here? 

3am Thoughts

Does not keeping any relation with my two faced mother in law makes me a bad person?? She is so bad to me personally and so good when her son comes in to scene. His son was the one who approached n convinced me for marriage after 6 years of relationship. I was the one who said we should think about it twice. But she thinks iam the one who made his son rebellious and blackmailed him in to getting married.
Dont get me wrong he is really nice guy and very simple so her mother thinks he cant take his decisions.
In 6 years of relationship i told my now husband thousand times that we dont suit each other but he was adamant that we were made for each other. When we got married and started living together i realised that he was right all this long. This marriage doesn't fill burden. Its like getting married to your bestest friend or finally puzzle pieces of life are coming together.
He loves her mom but would pretend like he loves me more. She loves her son a lot but dont want to believe the fact that his son can take his own decisions and so when she finds me alone she go on with the raag of how iam an home breaker n wat not. I usually end up crying. Husband knows it but when he tries to intervene i stop him from doing because i dont want to be tagged again and again how iam breaking there home.
She is somewhat a nice person but i just want to say this here that i hate u to the core monster in law

Emotional Abuse

My mother law is a pain in the ass and my husband is not supportive at all

Misunderstanding

I'm a MBA graduate in finance, still opted to be a homemaker n in 6 years of married life repenting for the same daily. Fed up with life, fed up babysitting husband that I don't wish to have a kid of our own. Hez a Dota freak. Doesn't even share responsibility towards home. Sometimes I feel I've spoonfed n I'm responsible for this behavior. It's killing me. Having a discussion about the same says should I quit my job n be with you to chase away your loneliness (it's kinda blackmail, as he's the only bread earner ryt ) I'm clueless. We don't have a disciplined life, at least when I try to have my life to follow a path no Hez not letting me do it too. For every fight we have I'm the reason according to him n solution is drinking an energy drink. I've literally begged not to drink it but no, knowing it's bad for health still wants to drink it. I jus wanna give up. Nothing much left in life. I just feel like ending my life. Hez a big  foodie but for every dish I prepare there's always a criticism. I take so much effort n I prepare but no acknowledgement at all. Tries to control the way I talk the way I behave as if Hez mastered it all. I'm fed up being nice. Office work too is just for the heck of salary Hez into, if not jus Dota would suffice Hez needs. No time to me at all. Now that even I've accepted the fact I don't even want his attention. More far he is its better to me for my mental peace

Depression

I’m married since a year. Been living with my in-laws for 4 months. They are generally nice and don’t mistreat me but I’m someone who’s lived alone or in a hostel for the last ten years so it’s been quite a bit of culture shock and I don’t feel supported by my husband. Please give me tips to be happy here and live with them amicably

Adulting

I have been super irritated with my parents in law for the past month. I live as a joint family with them and I have been taking care of them for the past 8 years. But for them, the most important person is their daughter and no else. How do I Remove her interference from my family affairs?

Any law student here?

Career

Hi, I'm indhu . Before 3 months I get married.we are not happy in marriage life .. I don't why I can't accept him...few days before I found he is in love with someone. now I'm in depression from when I knew truth about his cheating.. many time I tried to do suicide.. I can't overcome from that ..



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