I’m feeling so devastated every minute I think of him I’m sobbing in pain idk how to get over it.he was my bestfriend then we strtd dating and we dated for 6 years everything was best untill 2020 came it wasn’t long distance neither we meet 1s a month or anything, we use to meet every day have some time together I was everything for him but eventually we couldn’t be together but yet we wer together without the tag of any relationship but still together ( together is there was eachother and never crossed our limits since so many years) but all of sudden things changed he strtd hiding his prob thou I gave him space and I wasn’t any typical gf but he strtd talking only wen he felt to talk or wen he drank and tell everything tht he did this without telling any1 and stuff…eventually lots of probs strtd his frnds group didn’t like me ,those assholes wer Oppuruntisic they wer only using him for his money and I use tell him that spend Accordingly so they strtd spreading hatreds and create misunderstandings btw us he didn’t listen at first but everyday they use tell hell lots of things about me to him and he never told me about it tht his frnds told this he thought I’ll feel bad and stop talking to his frnds bcz for him his frnds are really imp and I was even imp to him he didn’t want to choose btw both but ltr 1 day his frnds called me and those yr using my frnds yr bitch yr slut playing with our frnds feels I didn’t answer to them but I informed my guy tht yr frnds told me this…insteading of standing for me he was like ignore ignore ignoree once I even ignored it but those ppl wer bitching about and I entered all of sudden and say my guy doing some actions and telling them he ll cry he ll get hurt dont tell anything
But I had already everything so I asked him YOUR FINE PEOPLE BITCH ABOUT ME BUT YOU JUS DONT WANT ME TO GET TO KNOW BCZ YOU CLEARLY TOLD DONT TELL ANYTHING INFORNT OF HER
He was I’m standing fr yu and yr taunting was my Question a taunt ?! It wasnt ryt…then I meet his frnds and him together and his frnds gave him a choice you need to choice HER OR US
Before he gave an answer I told choose yr frnds , bcz I knew how imp his frnds wer to him.i jus came 6 yrs back in his life but his frnds are since 21 yrs on the other hand I broke dieing wen I told that I had to be some1 NUMBER 1 PRIORITY but for him frnds wer so I choose my SELF RESPECT and walked out frm his life blocked frm everywer no contact
Later he strtd sending the memories we had together he frnds strtd sending me videos bitching about me my num was spam number for 2 months.strtd sending gifts everyday each gifts strtd conviencing my frnds so that I can talk and calling my self respect as ego
After some days we coincidently met couple of tyms I jus walked out from there but no matter how strong I portray myself each I go to bed crying eating sleeping tabs anxiety tabs I’m so mentally I’ll right idk wt to do and how to behave
Now as he is doing so much efforts he calms he still loves me and he wants me and I’m ignoring him to satisfy my ego why can’t he understand it’s about my self respect
Was I wrong choosing my respect over 6 yrs of relationships and 2 yrs of frndship or should I frgt and strt talking to him with a sorry I don’t understand I’m clueless but the fact is I STILL LOVE HIM
You aren’t wrong my gal
If he didn’t understand in 8 yrs wat do you accept for him .I do agree you had lots of memories together but you did a great work by showing your self respect only few take a stand rest jus sacrifice everything for love I’m really proud of you but you really need help consult a doctor getting over him is not easy thing for you and I could clearly understand and you need to be strong and if you want the old you …you gotta let go things
I consulted pyscogolist was under treated for 8 months I had lots of panic attacks and all but I was trying to get over him but he jus bounce back try to convince me to be back tbh we don’t have destiny to be together yet why do he want neither we wer sexually active and now I don’t trust him idk I lost faith in him…there no possibility of making him as my bestfriend again how can I make him my love again and get hurt again
May ik why you can’t be together
Bcz we from diff religion…we had decided if our family agree we ll be together or else we ll never blame eachother but we ll respect and be frnds alwys
You didn’t have a closure that’s why you are feeling this way…once go talk to him alone hve a one to one conversation remove all yr frustration all yr anger everything then you ll feel peace within then decide you want or you don’t want him to need to listen to him also bcz as you said before his answers you walked out frm his life mayb he was choosing his love over frndship bcz yr his bestfriend and his love talk to him once
I don’t wanna face him…I’ll endup crying and hurting both of us againn so I don’t wanna
Baby listen I know it’s for 6 years of relation but all that matters is how much you are priority to him he could have balanced both the sides of relation or he could have said to his friends and convince them by saying anything they are his friends they shld understand and he should be clear about both the sides of relation baby girls am very proud of you ,you did the right thing I know it’s hard but choosing you over the person who dint even choose you for one go and gave more importance to year then baby just be strong you know clearly where you are heading just calm down get back b occupied with yourself love yourself more it’s more important than thinking about all those memories those are worthless when the person is not right for you don’t harm yourself by thinking so much anxiety , depression gets when we are too much worried just let go it’s better to cry now then later so be strong get back to yourself love yourself more that’s the only therapy to get you out from your anxiety I have been in relation to it was more than 3 years even i broke up for my self respect we need to put ourselves top you will get the right one on right time till them focus on you,u don’t need any psychologist baby you are fine you just need to be strong and love yourself and just be occupied don’t get trapped for emotions which doesn’t have any life God bless you be strong 💪
Thnk you so much your words mean alot to me 🖤you been a strange understood me so much but he didn’t, he call I’m egotistic bcz I ain’t turning back he claims he didn’t choose any1 over me but I could feel that he did and idk I try to be strong but I can’t get over him…bcz he isnt letting me to moveon
