I’m feeling alright. But I can say I’m still recovering from my breakup. I broke up with my boyfriend who was physically, verbally and emotionally abusive. I’m proud of myself for doing that.
I am glad you moved on and broke up… Abuse just ruins ones life… I’ve been there and recovering 😐
How do you start trusting yourself again? And this decision of leaving him/her?
Tbh it’s really tough…I am in a position where I love that person but cannot live with him/her.
The abuse has broken me to pieces…It has derailed my life in every aspect be it career, family and frnds etc…
That’s the reason I mentioned, abuse ruins ones life completely.
If I may know, how long has it been since you broke up?
Interestingly I broke up first on Feb 19 (he was coming home for the first time officially to meet my parents to talk about getting married and all). But the final breakup was on women’s day this year, March 8.
Since then my health has been doing better physically (I used to have constant headaches when I was with him), I’ve been promoted in my work and I feel calmer but there is not a single day when I don’t wonder if I took the right decision. Whenever I question myself if I made the right choice, I start watching lots of videos and books (check out Gottman’s research on relationships and Dr. Tracey Marks on YouTube). I go back to the terrible messages he sent me (the last messages were literally this month). Finally I can logically reason with myself that I just wasn’t happy nor respected.
Hoping it’s not too late for me to find someone.
I dont know for some reason I don’t see the notifications on this website… Anyways, tbh even I have those thoughts of whether I did the right thing… I am in a situation right now where I love her, but cannot even imagine staying with her…I had slit my wrist last year while havin a worst argument, those scars still remind me that I made a good decision of moving out.
The abuses had derailed me… I used to live in fear…my confidence was shattered. I kinda lost myself…
Now that I have moved out, I am slowly putting myself on right track… Have started reading books and getting started with job change preparation.
Even I was not respected, every time time my self respect was questioned…
Love is only when u respect eachother else its just toxic love…
Will surely watch the video you have recommended… Btw, may I know wer ur from?
Somewhere lost in the metaverse :)
I prefer to keep my anonymity.
Sure thing!
