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Anonymous

I’m a lesbian. I came out to my family a few months ago. They have started to treat me differently since then and they hate it even more knowing I’m together with a girl; my girlfriend who is also my first partner and my first love… During all this hardship only my cousin sister who’s 3 years younger than me and my girlfriend makes me feel better. My sister doesn’t really have much time for me as we live separately and she’s still in highschool. My girlfriend is the only person I can rely on but the thing is we have been fighting a lot in past few months and we’ve hurt eachother alot and cried a lot to the point where it started affecting our mental health. We both lack sense of better communication and I knew we had to work on it soon to solve this. We had an argument just a few days ago and neither of us were trying to communicate the problem and were ignoring each other. It went like that for a day. The next day I got a text from her saying she wanted a break up. Maybe she got fed up with all the fightings and crying but I knew it was a communication issue and it can be solved. She kept saying it’ll go worse and that she was tired to try anything anymore but I can’t just let go her like that. We both love each other and if we leave like this it’ll be even more harder. I told her we can work this out and she asked for some time to think but I’m really puzzled now. Should I just let go?? If I do then I know I can never love anyone else. I don’t know what to do… Since that conversation I can’t even breathe properly and I’m waiting for her answer… I don’t know what I’ll do if we break up. She’s my only source of happiness and I love her alot. I feel worthless that I couldn’t be enough for anyone and it’s eating me up. If anyone has been through a situation like this please help me out. Thank you.

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Anonymous

Hey, I can understand how you feel. Amd trust me it hurts more than someone can portray in words. But it gets better. It won’t get better tomorrow or day after tomorrow but in a few months, years it eventually will. And I am not asking you to give up on her, you should try your best to keep it working or to win her back, but if somehow it doesn’t work out, I don’t want you to lose hope. At all. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe you’re going through this time which is getting you ready for the future. It may lead to a beautiful life together or a life where you find yourself and move on with life. Just keep going with the flow. Don’t force things. I know it is easier to say but trust me I have been in that place and see I am here today trying to help you. So, don’t lose hope.

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I hope for the best too

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Anonymous

Don’t bother her
Give her sometime to think and you also calm down girl
Being out of relationship isn’t a small thing
Meet her for a coffee and say what you’ve post here tell her your feelings bro she’ll definitely understand your situation
And don’t be irritated by her sayings just have a healthy conversation the solution will automatically pops up
Hope you’ll be in healthy relationship again and soon 😇😇

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Anonymous

Thank you 🌻

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Joy @joyforlife

Nobody likes sad, crying, angry and frustrated faces. Why I’m saying that?

When you are in love with someone and you rely on them, you need them. You leave your happiness behind and find happiness with them. You crave for her attention coz you know you have faced many things just bcoz of her, so it’s your right and her duty too.
While she thinks to get the same energy and happiness from your side as before without much hardships. But she feel stressed. I think there is nobody wrong except the situation. And as you said she is in high school, I don’t think you should expect much from her.

In my suggestion, I would only suggest you a few things,
1. Being lesbian is your decision, so don’t rely on her. It’s about your sexuality, not about the sexuality with her only
2. In love, the only thing matters is happiness. When happiness is vanished, there is no love left.
3. Try to love yourself first. If you can’t love yourself, it’s hard for everyone even if how much they love to you.
4. Care for her happiness too. Sometimes when we are low, we forget to think about our partner, to care for our partner, that make them feel terrible.
5. Try to live the moments without having a second thought in mind while you are together.

This problem will be solved for sure. Stay positive ✌🏻 stay strong 💪 stay happy 🤗

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Thank you 🌻

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Anonymous

Girl that’s just how I was born. Not everybody can be attracted to opposite sex. It’s not a choice it’s just how I am. And wtf do you mean by “sexual attraction”. If you’re straight and if you date is it just for sex or what?? It’s the same for us. Our heart is just that way and it’s not as easy as you think it is and since you’re straight don’t try to tell me what’s right and wrong since you guys can never relate to us. You’ll never know how it feels to act like you are straight just so that you can fit in a friend circle or how hard it is to come out to your loved ones just to get disgust in retuen. Never asked for your help with my sexual orientation I was asking people to help me out with my relationship and if you can’t do that skip my story simple. Homophobism is a disease not my sexual orientation.

A.K. @akpsych

Well said miss!! I’m a lesbian myself too!!! And I agree with you✨

Anonymous

I agreed with you totally. And yeah I think it’s true that not everyone can feel how we feel until it comes to them. But I hope we all bring peace to each other and be someone whom we can rely on ^^. Ignore the shit that annoys you just listen and care of your loved ones,try to understand her and taking time isn’t bad thing. Once you both feel calm, it’ll bloom again!!
Best of luck

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Thank you 🌻🌻

@dk7379

How are you

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Anonymous

I’m alot better now. She actually texted me back so ig she maybe wants to give us one more chance…

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Okay must be good

Anonymous

As you got a chance for your relationship then try not to mess anything from now on and don’t keep ego in between both of you… If she is not texting then you can text her as you love her more and if there is a mistake then someone say sorry and close that matter and don’t bring that in future fight then it will be good for both of you… Try to understand her feelings and thoughts and obviously we have to change a little bit to keep her happy and yourself happy

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Of course! I’ll never let us bring the same attitude while fighting again. I’ll work on our communication skills. I’ll help her and myself be a better version so that we can be happy together. She’s my happiness and I’m sure I’m here too it’s just the situation right now that’s being hard on her. I’ll never do anything to hurt her and myself again. Thank you for your advices I’ll keep that in mind 🌻

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How and where this app does not have much information

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Huh??

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say yes and how are you are you male or female where are you from

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I’d rather keep my address private but I’m from south asia. I’m a girl

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so will you talk to me on whatsapp

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Anonymous

About what?

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Are you having any trouble talking to us?

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I’m sorry? Who’s us?

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Anonymous

it doesn’t matter if you have a problem

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