If you’re not genuine with your feelings, don’t enter someone’s life and mess it. Not everyone can live the same way again after being disturbed when they are just living their peaceful life at first.
Mayank @true_who
Hve u experienced so?
yep, u can say so
Mayank @true_who
So hve u got over that?
hmm so so, but I still regret letting that person enter my life. The effects are still living in me and it would sometimes be triggered and it’s not something good
Mayank @true_who
Don’t regret. Think that person would hve brought a slight happiness in u. Stay optimistic
Being optimistic has its downsides. It’s better to be a realist. I would gladly give back all those temporary happiness in exchange of my old self. That experience is not worth it. There are things that you can’t look at optimistically especially if it destroyed you, it’s like forcibly ignoring your pain just to look on an imaginary good side that you created to comfort yourself.
Mayank @true_who
I didn’t told u to be delusional. Optimism is seeing positive in everything. If it destroyed u, u hve it’s realization u hve learned from it. It’s positive from it
Thanks for the advice, though I don’t want to sound like a pessimist, I can’t still accept that kind of thinking. The bad things weigh more than the “realization” I got. Hypothetically, let’s say someone got raped. You can’t tell her “Just see the positive side of this situation” cause that’s kinda fcked up. What is her realization in that situation? Never go out? Even the realization part is not positive, man. There are situation that nothing good comes out.
Mayank @true_who
Raped nd someone left are different things uncomparable. I understand what you are saying. You have controlled a lot of pain. I am saying realization because it keeps you not to imagine things and not to be delusional nd stay with reality. Seeking positive in everything cause its an alternative rather than sticking with the problems and sadness
So you’re saying “looking at things optimistically” only applies to certain situations? I also get your point but maybe we just don’t have the same wavelength. I tried being optimistic before but it all backfired so it’s better to accept and face everything as it is, if there’s no positive side on it then you that is what it is. There are moments that you really can’t find anything good and that’s okay I guess. But that thank you for this exchange of thoughts
Mayank @true_who
Yes it is. Ya it’s coz ur applying ur experiences nd I’m saying just psycological facts nd a little bit experience.
Mayank @true_who
Thnks u too for adding something in my mind. It might helpful to anywhere else
