I was practicing celibacy since 6years,
Was thinking of becoming a monk or something of that sort,
But then girl fell in love with me and eventually I too fell in love with her. And we are into a complicated relationship.
She had a lot of past and baggage,
At first i did not bother much because i was completely naive about relationships,
But now i just get way too annoyed and hurt thinking about things she did in the past,since childhood i
I always thought if I had a gf i would be her first and only one, and in my adult life I had completely stopped thinking over those things because i was practicing celibacy.
But life hit me hard and now I’m neither able to practice complete celibacy and nor relationship is going that well.
At worst i think about things she did in past with her ex. I think it like 5-10times a day and feel hurt. I know having issues with someone’s past isn’t right. Bur forget about right or wrong,
I fucking can’t help it. The worst thing is I’m going through this trauma and mental torture due to something someone else did in the past.
You didn’t think about this before because you accepted her the way she is with you but the time you came to know about her past and you started thinking about all the things which she did with her ex. It’s normal because it’s your first time like this and if you love her you have to accept her the way she is with you and not what she did in her past. People make mistakes and they learn from that’s experience but judging someone because of their past is not good and it’s alright if you’re not his first then be her last.
Wow the last sentence really moved me, thank you so much.
I am not good looking…Everybody makes fun of me except some of my friends. I sometimes kind of feel hurt and then get in the mood to cry. My parents are not happy with me either as i am not going looking or good in studies. It looks like life hitting me hard… I am stuck…i don’t know what you do… My parents always say that as soon as covid is over they will send me to a hostel. Does anyone has the same situation as me…i can’t go down or up… Pls help me…i fell like escaping from this mad life…but then i think of my parents.
Hey I don’t think you have to worry about this very much.
Even the hostels are the best place some times.
You may find some good friends and get some amazing moments there.
Don’t worry …!!
I too feel like I’m good for nothing but now I’m thinking that what ever the world feels about just keep it aside.
I just want to know who you are…!! Learn what you want , decide what you want to do with your life.discover your hobbies ,your like.
And do whatever makes you feel happy.
Don’t think about what the society says . Just be happy.it is so simple to say all these but yeah …;!
You have to try and do each and every thing in the world to know what makes you happy.!!
Love you❤️
Hi
What matters the most
Is THE PRESENT
If in the present she is with you
Sort of all yours
If she really cares n loves you
Consider urself to be very very fortunate
Because not everyone finds true love in life
If she is your true love
You are her true love
That should matter the most…
Past cannot be changed…
It is your love for her that makes you uncomfortable with her past…
Because for you she is first love
But for her you are not
So this will obviously haunt a little…
But take it this way
What do you think
Does she deserve your love
If yes just give her that…
She has already gone through pain of her past relation…
If you feel she is best for you
Pls forget the rest…
Past cannot be changed
But present can be lived to the fullest…
In future you must not regret or repent
i simply wasted my present …
I know it is easy for me to write…
But still try convincing ur mind.
Good luck
Hmm thanks, will try doing it
