I was in a relationship with a girl, later we sort of broke up. Later like about a month after she came back because something bad happened to her. I was considerate, helped her in everyway possible. But i wanted to know whether she loves me still or not. But she refuses to answer that saying she isn’t in the position to think about all that stuff as of now. I understand her, but I don’t have the capacity to handle such uncertainty i believe, I had this huge trauma thing happened to me in the past and I’m just unable to trust somebody. I don’t want to be just other guy helping her. What should I do? I said this to her and she says she can’t do anything about it, suggests that maybe we should talking. What should I do now
Luna @luna7
I like the way you’re not forcing her and all, just ask for a time to talk when she can talk with all her focus so that there’s no possibility of the conversation ending in between. And then just tell her that you’re confused, that you don’t hate her or it’s not like you don’t want to help her but you need assurance or an answer whether you should wait for her or not. Maybe she’s sharing with you because she’s still comfortable with you and hadn’t found anyone else she could trust or maybe it’s because she still likes you? we don’t know so just ask whether you’re should wait or not so that you can take steps according to that.
Yeah, I felt the same way, but yesterday she told me to not come back, you know. I asked her something, she asked me who am I to ask her those stuff. I can understand that it’s her boundary or whatever but she could’ve toned down her language, right?
Luna @luna7
On a scale of 1-10, how much would you rate her problems? [if you were in her place] and how much time do you think a person would take to recover from this shit and start thinking straight?
Maybe a 9ish i suppose, i don’t know how much time she would take. She speaks of moving out of the country, as that might be the only way to escape her problems(her family is the problem).
Luna @luna7
If the problems are severe maybe let her be alone for some time? Recovering often results in us not being able to think straight like we just get tired and need some time alone. Many times someone says something jokingly or just in fun but since we are frustrated it triggers us and causes arguments so it’s better to take a break, maybe she’s going through this?
Maybe yes I suppose! Thanks man this really helps
Saurav Kumar @saurav04
Help her if you can , keep no expectations.
Probelm is I beyond my own mental health and priority to help her you know
Saurav Kumar @saurav04
Then priorities yourself, what are you waiting for!
