I want your opinion regarding this.
I feel so uncomfortable about my bf crushed my boundaries. After several talk. He okay. But i made a mistake he gonna say i dont want to follow the boundaries and whatnot. That is first. As time goes by we are good. Im a bit afraid to talk about certain issues because he always said he wanted to leave me if i said so and so. But after a while i become like him, when i saw he reply his ex dm , his workmate dm, im so lost i want a break up. So he coming to.meet me to apologise. Im not yet finish with my anger and the he said im comin all the way here you know just like you want so if you still dont want this relationship its better if you go out of the car. No point of me comin here if you still dont want me right.
I want to know is it manipulative?
Kasi C @saravana_07
It’s just hurting the people’s emotions in the name of relationship…Your bf is toxic in my point of view!
Ya i think so. Its just that i cant make my decision yet because sometimes he treats me good. But when i refused to do what he want, he become so mad. Blocking me. And then come back.
I just want to know you guys response is the same as me or not. Because i think he being manipulative. I have to be tough this time.
Plushie @ot7
Q i think you should break up with him cause the behaviour of ur bf ur explaining to us is just toxic and the fact that he treats u good u only post in ur previous post that he only treats me good if he have some work so I suggest you to break up with him. Why living in such toxic relationship. U are precious u can find any boy u want just be yourself. 💜
I will. I have been tolerating this for quiet sometime. It has been 3 years btw. Im so tired but i also found myself cling into the little goodness he showed me.
Kasi C @saravana_07
You are right be strong with your decision.
Hey I am sorry that you have to undergo this. Have been there and I know how miserable and helpless you feel. But let me tell you that he is manipulative and it’s toxic. We tend to keep our emotions in the back seat when it comes to our loved one. Trust me things that you not ok with, your boundaries everything is absolutely fine and you do you. By accomodating such behaviour, we don’t pave way for them to be a better person but instead the opposite effect. We let them become more controlling, toxic and manipulative. You can’t change anyone tbh. Please take some time to introspect and understand your relationship and understand you. You matter. Your mental health matters beyond anything.
Exactly, i feel helpless. And miserable. I would say it is a rollercoaster journey for me. I once said that im feeling empty. Tired from working. And he said to keeo going. But because im so tired i said it easier for you to said. The he said " i told you what i know, if you cant take it. So it is all on you". I instantly feel guilty because i feel like i dont appreciate his thought of my situation. Hopefully i can make a way out of this.
I totally relate to you. When we are in a relationship, we won’t be able to judge this behaviour and we think the mistake is in our side and blame ourselves most of the time thinking that we aren’t accomodative enough to appreciate his thoughts and action and we have to change ourselves. But when you take one step back and think you will understand that it’s not you. One shouldn’t make you doubt or make you feel guilty about your thoughts or how you feel. Relationship is about accepting each other’s view despite the differences. If he constantly makes you think you are wrong and you are not accomodative of his thoughts, it’s not you who have to change or feel guilty.
Yes, trueeee. When i first met him, i think i ignore most of the red flags because i want to keep him and now i pay the price. But with all supoorts that i received from you guys i feel so happy and blessed!! Thank you so much 🤍
We all have been there, we ignore the red flags when we love a person. Don’t be hard on yourself. You deserve only the best. More power to you :)
Abhishek @aatre
Relationships means not giving up your happiness for other one’s. So if you are happy that means your relationship is healthy otherwise its all pressure on 1 person who try to save their relationship apologies for partners mistakes.
Thank youuuu for this! I deserve to be happy and safe right . Im worthy too ❤
Abhishek @aatre
Actually don’t think much. If he get attracted to other person then let him go. You too are human being You too Get more attraction By someone else. and Moving on is a thing to start your other part of life with freshness.
All the best 💌
Thank you so much. You have no idea how it lift my spirit. May you blessed ❤❤
Abhishek @aatre
Its ohkk. You don’t have to thanks anybody.
Actually Thanks to you Because you expressed what you feels.
He is manipulative manhhh…
Leave him
