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Jafar Abbas @jafarabbas33

I think almost all the parents are selfish. They bring a new life in the world just to have some playtime with them, have a support system in case they need money and out of traditional respect. And they think they own us in every way.

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Simran @st1199

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Hey!
What made you think this way?
Would you like to share?๐Ÿ˜€

Jafar Abbas @jafarabbas33

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Yes I would like to share. It is kind of related to my previous thought: https://nowandme.com/hi-i-am-in-class-12th-first-of-Qn-qBdGqX
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I suppose it will answer your question.

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Simran @st1199

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I gave it a read.
So, I can feel somewhat about what you mentioned. Parents do not show interest or even if they do, they want to pursue what they believe we should. I fought with what I wanted rather by saying โ€œyesโ€ to what they said when I was in 10th. But then they understood and even now if they arenโ€™t 100% with me or my decisions career-wise or others, I actually donโ€™t care because I know how to make a life for myself. They support me financially obviously being their child and wish the best for me and push and motivate me to do that but emotionally I have my friends for that and I myself is a big support system for myself. Hehe.

So, they do not need our money because they have enough to live a life. We as children have a responsibility to help them in their retirement as they are now when we arenโ€™t earning. At least I feel this way and I am going to do it this way. Actually everything depends on parenting style and how they have lived their life, how they have grown, and if they are not open to the generation gap and learn, there is a higher possibility that they will do things which they did as a child and hence there is where we lack understanding.

Study hard to get a college outside your city. They obviously would want to send you into a Top college and if itโ€™s outside they will let you go. Just try your best for that. I also did the same.

Jafar Abbas @jafarabbas33

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Thanks for reading. What I have written below might look offensive. If you are a sensitive person, please donโ€™t read further. Just a warning before you read.
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My parents have no savings. They just use up everything given to them. Due to Covid-19 and my mindset, it is not possible for me to get good marks. I have to lie a lot because they canโ€™t keep a secret or understand why I did what I did. I am not saying all parents are the same but if they donโ€™t understand us. We canโ€™t forgive them just because they were brought up this way. If they brought a life in this world, we are their responsibility and they canโ€™t pretend that they own us or we owe them. After all we didnโ€™t ask for this life. In a way, we were forcefully given this life. And it is a taboo to take oneโ€™s own life.
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Being said that, I am trying to cope up with the stress but if they deny me moving to another city, I donโ€™t think I will be able to hold on.

Jafar Abbas @jafarabbas33

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If we help them in any way, it is our goodness. At least that is what I believe.

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Simran @st1199

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Killing yourself isnโ€™t a solution. It doesnโ€™t matter whether itโ€™s taboo or not. Itโ€™s not something one should be proud of doing.

You mentioned because of the circumstances you wouldnโ€™t be able to score enough to get into Top, no problem, I understand, however, try your best so that you donโ€™t regret it in the end. Start telling them that you wish to study out so that they have this thought in the back of their mind. Just bring it up often at the right time.
Nobody owes nobody. Maybe it could be your mindset saying this or a fact that your parents do it.

Some parents are not open to listening to what we offer to say, our emotions rather take that lightly and just speak what they want to. You actually canโ€™t do anything unless you speak to them directly and make them understand and there are chances after that too they be the same. We need to have our own self and friends for us. You will figure it out eventually, I am sure. Letโ€™s hope with a new year, we have things surprising us.

Jafar Abbas @jafarabbas33

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Again thanks for reading. I didnโ€™t say I was proud of ending my life. I am no way near saying that and I donโ€™t think anyone is proud of saying that but yeah I donโ€™t have anyone in my life to give priority over my problems so I donโ€™t care what happens after I am gone. I am just saying if I am not let out, I donโ€™t think I will be able to hold on to my life.
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Actually no, I donโ€™t believe in โ€œNobody owes nobodyโ€. I just think that way only in parent-children relationships as I said โ€œAfter all we didnโ€™t ask for this life. In a way, we were forcefully given this life.โ€ Yeah but I will try to keep reminding my mom about my wish and if it goes my way (or something similar to my way) I will try my best to remember to tell you what happened. After all, you bore with me till now๐Ÿ˜‚
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Happy new year in advance!

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Simran @st1199

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You have the right to think that way though I disagree on that.
Maybe talk to strangers randomly to feel good and you know there isnโ€™t a liability to stay forever to talk. It will take your mind off from this.
Maybe try a Dating app for it, for some days and delete it. Or just go ahead with anything and everything you wanted to do this year.

Yes, please do that and do let me know!
Happy New Year to you too! ๐Ÿ˜€

Jafar Abbas @jafarabbas33

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Remember me?

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Simran @st1199

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Hey!
Yes, I do. How have you been?

Jafar Abbas @jafarabbas33

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Fine. Well as I said I will tell you what happened, I have paid the first semester fee of a university in another state but because of covid I donโ€™t know when will the offline classes will start. I am just trying to hold on. How about you? How have you been?

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Simran @st1199

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Sorry for the late reply. Iโ€™m good. Keeping myself busy with college and work.

Thatโ€™s great, buddy! I hope you get to move to another state and enjoy college life to the fullest. Thank you for remembering and letting me know about the same. ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ’›

Jafar Abbas @jafarabbas33

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No prob. I guess itโ€™s a nice thing that you are keeping yourself busy.

I donโ€™t even know when the college will openโ˜น๏ธ Whatever by the way why Now&Me stopped having weekly meet-ups?

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Simran @st1199

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You donโ€™t tend to be busy with all the college workload?

Iโ€™m no longer an official member of Now&Me, so not updated on whatโ€™s going on. ๐Ÿ˜•

Jafar Abbas @jafarabbas33

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Currently I mainly have to attend online classes only.

Why the change? I remember the last time I joined the meeting, you werenโ€™t there and a lot of them was asking about you (Personally I was not a fan of the meetup but still)

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Simran @st1199

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I had my fair share at Now&Me and learned many things. Wanted to explore different things pertaining to my field, thatโ€™s why left it.

Will always be close to my heart. ๐Ÿ’™

Jafar Abbas @jafarabbas33

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Oh nice

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