I said yes to arranged marriage fixed by my parents, the guy seemed nice, I still don’t know how he ll turn out tho, I am constantly pressured at home to learn things that ll help me a good wife and I am tired of all of this, I don’t want to be a good wife or anything, I can barely do stuff for myself I am not that selfless to start doing shit to impress people even though I am a feminist, I can’t make any changes in my life. I am also working, but that cannot be a source of tiredness for me according to my parents so I am doing double the work with no time for myself and I am genuinely so exhausted, I wish my real parents were somewhere out there to help me
If you are pressurised to learn something, and that doesn’t match with your character…that thing won’t last long. And in case of marriage, and being with someone for lifetime, faking or betraying your own character isn’t going to help and healthy for you (which you are experiencing now). If the guy really wants to marry you, he has to accept and appreciate the way you are…not the way he wants.
And before rushing for marriage, I would advise you to know each other…and check if you two really fit or not.
If he is wanting you, that doesn’t mean you will go for appreciating his wanting and surrender yourself to him. Im case of marriage and relationship, there is no compromise with your own values.
Faking won’t last long…
