I really want to know what love is?
Cz I don’t have that great of examples around…My parents have been married for 29 years but my mother has an affair.
My sister recently got married but her husband and I had a fling before their marriage. Once married, I have tried my best not to think of him in any other way…but recently we had went out and he got drunk and he confessed that he still feel for me too and also for my sister…
This is all too fucked up!! So i really don’t understand what love is?
Sanket @sanket
Seems like a very open family
Is there a sarcasm here?
Sanket @sanket
No, but i can say that love cannot be explained, it can only be felt
Well then if I have to ask this then it means I haven’t felt it
Sanket @sanket
How do you feel against your mother? That is also a form of love
Don’t know why but your story reminds me of Gehraiyaan trailer
The plot is kinda similar
Is it? I haven’t checked yet so no idea…but I guess I will…the movie might have the answer I am looking for
Oh I just saw…and I understand why you felt it similar!!!
Doo @doffax
Tbh Idk but in my opinion, that’s not love. It’s gonna terribly strike back and you’ll be in this crazy upsetting mood. Love isn’t complicated. In fact, it’s easy if you’re with someone who genuinely loves you because you don’t need a reason to love someone yknow?
What I explained about my family was just to state that I do not have anyone to look upto and understand what is love!
So my very genuine question here was what is love? How do you know you “like” someone and when you “love” someone?
There is a hell lot more to fuck up which I haven’t shared though 😅 but yeah I am here, i am smiling, trying to live a life, trying to survive without going insane
Anjali @whoisthiscantaloupe
Love is a very subjecting feeling. Let’s say, I rescue a dog. I foster/adopt him. I care for him and I gradually start loving him. That’s love.
I have a best friend. He/she goes on a wrong path in life and I try every hook and crook to get them back together. That’s love.
Mum has an affair, but she takes care of her child, fulfills every demand, prays for her child. That’s love.
Love can hit at different levels. You don’t have to be physically attracted to someone to feel your love for them. Also, if you love someone and you somehow lose them, that doesn’t mean you can’t love again.
What your sister’s husband is telling you that he is still in love with both you and your sister is a hoax. That’s not love. Physical attraction or maybe he is bored. But I can’t call it love. Lust maybe. Infatuation maybe.
I guess it’s just physical attraction! And I am not entertaining him…but my point was he is not from our caste so they have had a love marriage…it’s just been a year in Dec…and he is saying this to me…so I don’t know…does he love my sister or not? Or is my sister being cheated on and I should do something…she seems happy though!
Anjali @whoisthiscantaloupe
I won’t judge. But if I were you, I would tell the truth to my sister. It gets better when you come clean of everything. It hurts at first. But the rest of the path becomes smooth.
I’d say that you’re enjoying life Pretty well, you’re life is more dramatic thn tv serial
I am not sure I would say I am enjoying it.
Nobody enjoys seeing your mother go to another man…when I was a kid, there have been times she has prioritised that bastard over her kids…I used to come from tuition and find that man in our home, sitting on our couch! And my mother didn’t even show guilt about it…once when I confronted her, she challenged me that what will u do…go and tell ur father…he knows! Do what u want! And yeah my father does know abt it but he didn’t say or do anything for us girls…I was in 4th STD when I first came to know about it…and today I am 27 yrs old! And we still aren’t addressing the elephant in the room…just like all indian families!
Definitely not enjoying! Nobody enjoys seeing their mother going to another man! Or coming home to finding that man in ur house, sitting on your couch! During childhood there were times she has prioritised that bastard over her children…i remember this incident- I was in 4th STD and I had to come home in the middle of tuitions as I had forgot some book…and she didn’t open the door for good 10-15 mins…and when she did I found that man there hiding in our loo…and I had to use the restroom…and my mother didn’t let me…she was like tuition jaa k ho aana!
There has been times I have caught them at home but she challenges me k kya kar legi, papa ko jaa k bolegi…jaa jo krna h kar le…and the funny thing is my father knows this and he keeps mum god knows why!!
Like every indian family, nobody wants to address the elephant in the room!
Ameer Shaikh @ameer_shaikh
Hey, by the telling the story you’ve scrathed the wound that i was hiding…
When i was a 2 year old toddle my mum left me and my 2 older siblings for her office colleague, and i havent seen her face yet hear her voice since then…
But my dad was supportive all through the years…
My mum got the opportunity bcoz my dad was in the NATO army and was posted in dubai…me my elder sibling were born in dubai too, but we left the gulf after our mum left us, after coming to India no relative accepted us and bcz i was only barely 3 years old, my dad couldnt do his job properly…from living royal life in dubai we got into living below middle class in just a span of 1 year
Ameer Shaikh @ameer_shaikh
We are all good now…financially and other aspects too…im 21 now and the youngest person in college to have Ph.D in botanical sciences all bcoz of the way my dad uprised us…he sacrificed so many of his wishes and wants and needs as wel for our better…i love you baba🥺
Who needs a mother when you have such a great father!!! And I am sorry you were reminded of unpleasant memories! But I am really glad to know you guys are doing good now!! Your struggle days are gone, the bas period is over! Power to you my friend! Take care!
Vishnu Ghosh @vishnughosh
It’s just a thirst for sex, love is different. Suppose… We’re friends and one day i came to see you. You were sitting lonely and kinda broken, but when i asked you if you were okay? you said… “Yea I’m good” but when i felt like something’s wrong so i sat next to you and put my arm on your shoulder and gently goes like “heyy I’m here, what’s wrong” maybe you’ll shred tears and open up. That’s it. Love is not about having sex. It’s about caring, listening, fixing… Like that…
