I pursued my love which was one-sided at first. The person was always looking for love from other people. I was the one who held them and was with them. Finally the one-sided love was reciprocated. But now when I want to get married, I am not sure as the family has very patriarchal values and acts modern but follows old traditions to the T. I am not sure anymore because I have been told that I will have no support from the person I love but have to make my own decisions and face the consequences.
Just find out one thing. Does your partner really wish to commit their life to you and ask yourself the same question. Because if you have doubt in that. You are definitely going to have issues with each other.
Is anybody ever fully sure that they will be committed to each other as long as they live?
Not always but what matters the most are the efforts
U dont know but somethings are often forgotten when we love each other, like the issues of convincing families to marriage. but once the time comes we surely know its not a easy task but its a impossible one, always understand ur partner on taking this decision , if he /she isn’t interested, just understand about the problem and let it be the way it is.
I have no problem in putting my everything in convincing my side of the family. The other side has already been handled by my partner. But the problem is if I get married and then feel like I have no support (even when I feel I am right) from my partner then will I not crib later on. I have seen my partner’s family and I feel they are pretentious.
I think that if he supports you through all the trouble with his family, then he’s worth it. But if you’re gonna face them alone , then i think you’d be better off without him perhaps.
Hey Dear User,
I am aware of the feeling when long time one sided love gets reciprocated. I am also aware of being disappointed with the lack of love and respect from the said person. As a married person in India, I am also aware of the societal rules and I strongly believe that in India, marriage is not just a union of two souls, but of two families as well. I strongly believe that self love and self worth is above all - it’s okay for people to be traditional, but if their views clash with yours, I believe pursuing this may not be a step in the right direction! I married into a family that shares the same ideals as me and my family, and it has made life so much happier and easier ;)
Be brave! Lots of love!
That is great to know. Matching of ideals is a big win for sure.
Take care :)
