I need someone to talk to, I tried to talk to my friends but they are all busy in there life.
I tried to message my love one, but he replied so late. I know I’m not his priority, but his inconsistent replies triggered my past trauma about relationship. Also, my co-worker tells me, I need to invest time to code review, I’m junior app developer. I’m so stressed alone at my working station. I cried a lot when no ones around. It so sad that its happening again. Correct me if I’m wrong in my grammar. I’m not good at English.
Honestly, your english is very good, no complaints on my part. I think relationships in general, both friendships and SOs get harder the older you get. But, as an adult, you choose how to use your free time depending on how your doing financially. So I have 2 paths you could take (not to say there aren’t more);
(1) You want to focus on your relationships; you have to put time aside to determine if they’re worth keeping first. If they are, you need to be honest about how they’re making you feel unheard or unneeded. Those feelings lead you to feeling sad and don’t help you in the long run. If it can’t be fixed, leave it and invest time in either option #2 for a bit or immediately jump into finding new friends/reconnecting with old ones. If you leave the SO don’t immediately jump into another relationship, trust me
(2) You want to focus on improving your work life; unfortunately there’s not much I can tell ya since you didn’t talk about this much in your post. I’m going to assume your either dealing with anxiety (talk to a professional for this) or feeling isolated at work. Jobs aren’t typically places to make friends most of the time, so don’t expect anyone to solve your problems unless you build a good relationship with others first; but even then that’s rare.
Instead, see if you can play ambient music with a cafe ambiance. Background murmur of people talking, maybe calling someone during your break if you fix #1 first could also help, but then again what do I know I’m a stranger on the internet. Hope this helps!
-V
Hi… Thank you for sharing.
I hear you. I understand how you feel.
Doesn’t matter if you are not good at English. You expressing yourself is important and I’m so proud of you for that.
Please be kind to yourself. Give yourself the time you need. It will be okay. Take it day by day.
You’re precious, loving, beautiful and kind. I believe in you.
I’m here if you want to talk.
