ArKCane @arkcane
I need a suggestion.
I am in a live in relationship, she is a great woman but she fights for stupid stuff. (it feels stupid for me). It’s not about what she fights it’s about how much she fights , she keeps on streching it until I lose my cool. Yesterday she fought with me after she found her number on my phone was saved with her name , she didn’t speak the whole day. I felt lonely inside the house so i downloaded an app where I can chat with real people. And she saw me texting , she asked my phone I gave to her , but there is an archived chat where i message myself about my true thoughts and things i go through i didnr want her to see i took the phone and asked to open whatever she wants to see infront of me. She starting crying and abusing me. She even made marks on my hands and face using her nails. Me who was patient enough until that point lost my cool and gave her one slap and she slapped me twice and thats it, not speaking now again , where i went back said sorry and stuff. What to do??
Dude raising hands and crossing the boundaries is not cool at all.
She needs to understand that much
ArKCane @arkcane
Said a thousand times now. She is sleeping next to me peacefully and i am typing here.
Well I don’t know what to say , you need to understand it yourself and look out for you , this behaviour is not good and it will be very toxic for you
ArKCane @arkcane
Thank you buddy
Arguing is normal and healty in a relationship, I belive that the fact that she gets angry at you is because she cares about you because if she didn’t she wouldn’t care what you do or who do you talk because she does the same
ArKCane @arkcane
Yeah I agree buddy it’s common in a relationship but it shouldn’t be for everything and for long duration. There should be a end and shouldn’t be taken about the last fight in this fight right.
Pricop Ionut @ionut123
You can put it to an end only trough talking
ArKCane @arkcane
I love her buddy. Other than this she is a great woman. I don’t know how to communicate.
Pricop Ionut @ionut123
You dont know until you try my friend go for it i know its harder at the beging but you got this, take deep breaths, think never rush, be calm, think positive, try to understand her, to think from her perspective, and try to hold her hand while you talk to her
Pricop Ionut @ionut123
But she is a little bit too posesive and agresive, and you need to comunicate a lot with her, you need to show her that she can trust you
ArKCane @arkcane
I have shown her buddy. Every time I did. Not able to take it to next level. Not able to confidently speak to my parents as she might snap anytime
Pricop Ionut @ionut123
Show her affection and prove her how much you love her and dont hesitate
Pricop Ionut @ionut123
And make her understant that agression is not the way to fix troubles always talk and fix things
Pricop Ionut @ionut123
Comunication is the key
Cin @lovelycin
She also needs to comprehend what he’s communicating to her because if she can’t comprehend the communication then there’s no point of communication with comprehending.
Sanket @sanket
I interpret your partner based on your mentioned scenarios as controlling and insecure. Find out the root cause for such behaviour, and have open, polite and clear communication. You might not get answers within one day but keep seeking the root cause and with time you will get them
Vinit Sonkar @abay
Hi
Stif Jos @stif
Hii dear how are you
