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I messed up in my relationship. I was with my bf for 2 1/2 years. Throughout the relationship, every time we fought, he’d run and start to talk/flirt with other girls on his Instagram or Snapchat. He’d tell me it was okay that he did that because he wanted attention that I wasn’t giving him. In my head, I’d think it was okay because I’d make him mad or I wouldn’t do what he asked from me or I wouldn’t make him feel as loved as he wanted.
Well, over time, he got uglier with the way he spoke to me every time I upsetted him. Whether it were me not answering a question right away, me questioning me why we were doing things his way and so forth.
Lately, I started talking more and more to a friend. I sent a wonky face in my Snapchat messages and well, I deleted the messages.
When he was going through my phone he found them and exploded, he broke up with my whilst calling me a skank, hood rat, hoe and so forth.
I know what I did was wrong but it felt nice talking with someone who was that, nice to me.

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Anonymous

Why wasn’t he a skank, hoodrat, hoe and so forth for talking to or flirting with other girls every time you guys fought ? If you’re wrong then he is wrong too. Stop finding excuses for shitty behaviour. Stop being in mentally, emotionally, verbally abusive relationships just because you love them, or to prove that you’re a good person, or to prove your loyalty.

w

Yah you didn’t mess up your relationship.
If you weren’t in this relationship. And you read this post somewhere … what would you advice that someone ?

Anonymous

Both of you guys are shits! No more comparison inbetween you guys! Let me know what is that you have talked more and more to a friend!

m

This is one of the many, many reasons why long distance relationships feel so unsatisfying . . .

We were designed to pursue and form genuine relationships IRL which is why it’s so important for your overall well being that you learn how to do that with people IRL. After all, “Whoever isolates himself pursues his own selfish desires; He rejects all practical wisdom.” -Proverbs 18:1