I m just upset about so many things… today was like a nightmare… I can’t explain whole thing but would like to speak it out… I had an horrible fight with my in laws … but the best part my husband was on my side all the time… he didn’t Lsn a word against me… I m happy that he fought for me but he fought with his parents for me… misunderstanding created at home can’t be solved easily it will take time to heal… but my mind is running with so many questions… just putting it down …
How do you stop thinking that I m not judged my in laws for the things I said??
How to solve problem btwn the parent and the child caused Becoz of me?
Standing up for yourself is it worth the cause of image you create in front of in laws??
Supporting your husband for everything he has done but at cost of losing all respect from in laws is fine??
Is the father right to abuse his child just Becoz it hurts his ego?
Is it right to lose temper on father for not respecting your mother? N taking stand for her even if she’s wrong??
Can father be calm and heal the matter normally rather than just screaming on child?
Can you help me answer one of the questions
Hey hello, its little bit disturbing knowing your present situation. All of your questions are too genuine and it reflects your thoughts and respect for everyone. So many times we all have some misunderstanding and arguments with our family and its just normal, even we have heated arguments at our home. I just want to suggest one thing that i mostly try to solve this is not much replying to our elders and keeping ourself silent till they are angry. As in anger or in ego they wont be able to understand anything from you. Let them be calm after a while on their own and be just as normal as you were with them before the argument. May after 1 or 2 days when feel like they are in good mood talk with them in a generous way and try to make them understand your point in a very polite way.
This is so appropriate reply thank you so much… but I m trying to forget it and sleep but still I can’t … it’s back in my head when I try to even sleep
Burhanuddin @lburhanuddin
I would like to suggest you to first forgive them than it will be easy to forget that. Make yourself understand that everyone have their own point of view and we just cant fight all the time with everyone proving our own. And with this i am not saying that their point of view is right and yours is not. But try to understand this even if we are right we don’t have to prove it at that same moment. We can have a polite way to make them understand our point of view and convince them in a respectful manner. Sometimes i believe that if you give them enough respect which may be they dont expect than they feel like overwhelmed and will even listen to you.
And to have good sleep just try to forgive them. That grief has to be released from your heart and forgiving them will definitely release it. And secondly listen to some calm music.
I don’t want to give any justification to them… but me being a newly wed will it be okay to speak up to my father in law about where he was wrong and would he take in a positive way??
Burhanuddin @lburhanuddin
Ok its fine that you dont won’t to justify yourself but at times i think its good to communicate with your in laws and little bit justifying yourself. And saying your father in law that he was wrong is definitely a difficult thing to do. If you will try to tell him that he was wrong he will definitely take it to his ego and won’t like it either. Rather than just leave it as it is right now and in future if you find a situation to talk to him about this try it at that time.
That’s makes sense … thank you so much for the help… atleast it will gone from my head soon
Thank you so much was really helpful 😆
