I loved a girl in my 9th standard it was a very serious relationship and we broke out during my 1st year for a silly reason and I was broken (from inside to out) so I thought girls love keep on changing and so I started just to have opposite gender close relationship (as a girl friend or whatever) for short periods but during my 1st year engg i flirted a girl and I proposed her without full love first we had a good relationship she understood me well the relationship continued for more than a year then we started having ego and misunderstanding so we broke the relationship with mutual but now it’s been 6 months after she left my life i feel like i am nothing i felt like I loved her from my heart…
Bruhhhhh in an early age attraction to the opposite gender is normal we get attracted by someone and then we think it’s love, besides it is a big mistake getting into relationships in order to forget the past as you have said now you feel guilty that’s always the consequence of getting into a relationship when you’re not ready, the only suggestion I can give is that it happens it’s normal by the time you will meet more temporary people but you have to save yourself only focus on your career no one will matter at last except yourself, build yourself the true love will find you itself when you’re ready, and the most important forget everything and move on don’t try to give wound to more people as well as yourself.
Pencho piddi piddi bache isko pyaar samajh baithte hain … Hormones ni pta kya kanjar
Whatever happened on 9th, you can just consider it as a sweet memory and forget it.
Coming to the present you, if you’ve realised are egoistic (even slightly) I’d consider you to be in the top 10th percentile of the population with ego problems.
And about your relationship, if you feel you were wrong somewhere, just go and do your bit… Drop the ego and apologise her in person.
If things get in track after that, well and good but if they don’t, don’t worry… You’ve achieved something bigger which will be with you for your lifetime… You’ve dropped your ego.
If you think why I’m concentrating on EGO so much. I’ve seen people breaking down because the other person was not ready to listen to them or understand them because of their ego. It’s real difficult… Trust me.
I have apologized for my side and I have asked her for the relationship to continue.
I don’t have a ego with her.
If that’s the case, give yourself a break, try finding things that interest you like singing, dancing, programming or just sitting and looking at the sky. Find inner peace and stay away from your phone when you do this.
I know you might feel whatever I’m telling is not related to your question but follow these things. I can’t explain you the technicalities or how it works… but it just works
Give yourself a timeout bro.
Take a break from relationships. Start loving yourself, because until you don’t love yourself completely you can’t expect another person to love you and stay committed to you. I know it hurts because I had a breakup last year and it was a 5 year relationship. It hurts like hell I know.
But time will heal you, it’s the biggest healer out there. Get busy with your work or studies. Take up a new hobby. Don’t let your mind go idle.
Trust me taking time for yourself and loving yourself will make you realise there’s lot more to life than that person who left you. I found this out when I took a timeout for myself and it’s working wonders for me now. It’s been a year since I had a breakup and her memory don’t even hurt me a little.
You will be alright. Cheers!!
