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Anonymous

I lost my mom 2 months ago. My life is already hard enough.
But this guy friend I was talking to is saying stuff life 'I hate late replies I literally hate it. I except instant replies or a decent amount of time. ’
I AM ALREADY GOING THROUGH A TOUGH TIME I AM NOT EVEN TALKING TO THE REST OF MY FAMILY AND THIS BASTARD HAD THE AUDACITY.
just tell me what to reply because his mom knows us and she is really nice and helpful but him istg gets on my nerves sometimes. I talked to him thinking I might feel a bit better and this is what I got.

What should I reply

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Anonymous

Sorry for your loss I lost my mom too 2 months back and had similar kinda people in my life. Best thing is ignore them don’t just rely on one person for your emotional need have 3-4 people so if anyone backs off you hve others to rely upon this is what I learnt and about that guy tell him you are not at your best you are shaken and there can be a delay in your replies and hence if he is okay he will talk and if he doesn’t just cut the crap out of your life. No need to emotionally invest on people who aren’t there to stand besides you or understand you or support you in your hard times

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Anonymous

“look I’m already trying my best at talking normally, playing pretend but that doesn’t mean you can just go on have no regard for what I’m suffering each day. If you have such a big issue with replies and can’t be patient with me which is literally not even bare minimum, let alone helping me. Then I think it’s best if we stop talking”
Is replying with this okay?
And also considering you and I are going through almost the same thing can we be friends?

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Anonymous

We can be friends from my side but this site doesn’t allow to exchange ids or get in contact also I am a boy if that matters

And more important thing the reply thing I know that guy has irritated you but be polite with reply and you can simply reply to him that you can’t be fast with replies you aren’t always near by your phone and the tragedy that has happened with you isn’t giving you peace of mind and his words and demanding nature is adding on to the agony more.

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Anonymous

Hey !!! You there I wanted to chit
I am the one who commented above

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Anonymous

Hey haha sorry I’m replying late. A habit now offo lol.

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Anonymous

I was feeling miserable so thought of texting you

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Anonymous

I’m happy u did that, I understand times are tough, everyday is shit amd miserable

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Anonymous

Is there something else that’s bothering you?

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Anonymous

I am missing mom way too much 1-2 din se

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Anonymous

I really want her to come and take me with her

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Anonymous

I wish the same I just can’t live like this. I hate waking up everyday

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Anonymous

I can surely feel it. What kind of family support you are getting to fight from this tragedy ???

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Anonymous

Knock knock 🚪

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Anonymous

they try to cheer me up from time to time, really trying hard to get me out of this rut…

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Anonymous

But it’s so hard Uk… Even waking up each day i want to do nothing, my mind goes blank sometimes

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Anonymous

I never even anticipated this day would come, moreover it’s me my sis and dad, our other relatives I don’t even talk to them. It’s these hard times that made me realise who is real who isn’t…

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Anonymous

I wanted relatives to step forward but they don’t bother no one stood besides no cousins no one and after some time friends left too. And exactly like you am left it dad and sis. I couldn’t ever imagine something like this would ever happen and you know I had a dream of her in the early morning and as she was leaving I was crying. And suddenly I woke up and I had tears in my eyes during the dream.

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Anonymous

i-
I have been having getting dreams too. A lot actually. And my cousins, I don’t even wanna get started. Huge pain the ass fake people

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Anonymous

Oh you have a sister too? Older or younger? Mine is 7 years older

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Anonymous

Mine is younger but trying to act older these days. Running whole day for us. And trying to take all burden on herself

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Anonymous

Someone doesn’t reply much I guess 😝

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Anonymous

Oh na na, I have to open the site again and again that’s why…
You know what it’s a good thing that’s she’s working, engaging her mind.
Do you go for therapy?

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Anonymous

I took therapy but not continuing.

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Anonymous

I’ve been thinking of going for it. I would like to know your experience, how was it.

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Anonymous

I had issue previously before mom died it felt like quitting do you have other issues too ???

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Anonymous

For me idk maybe social anxiety.
So are you saying therapy didn’t help at all?

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Anonymous

No no it did but death of mom wasn’t the major concern that had to be treated.

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Anonymous

I am too dealing with a lot of stuff.
The incident might have made the situation more harder on you. Then any reason why you quit it? I hope the major concern got treated that’s why

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Anonymous

I didn’t quit majority was solved and I am not getting proper time and space to carry it on after few days be I wind it up.

By the way wht is your age and which city you put in ???

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Anonymous

I’m 18 and city haha you go first.

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Anonymous

I am 27 and from delhi

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Anonymous

Oh haha you’re so older… kidding

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Anonymous

Thank you so much 😝

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Anonymous

do u mind sharing like what were the major concerns?

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Anonymous

I lost friends and was kinda lonely
I loved someone toxic one sidedly
Thoda family se bhi issue tha kuch cheezo ko leke and wanted to work on anger issues too.

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Anonymous

You have some issues apart from losing your mom

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Anonymous

i think i do… keep comparing myself to my sister, social anxiety, loneliness
but nothing compared to losing her

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Anonymous

i hate my life

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Anonymous

Take sessions you would feel better

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Anonymous

i wsish i could, how do i tell my dad.
i mean i dont want money to be wasted on me, i dont want to become a liability u get me?
Moreover all the competitive exams are scheduled for this month and i am losing my mind, dont know how i’ll manage

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Anonymous

I told my dad I am taking some anger management classes and then after 3-4 classes I conveyed it to them

And about money and liability thing trust me our parents wanna see us happy as much as they wanna see us successful.

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Anonymous

And one more thing I had a breakdown after my 12 th too and I could not perform well due to stress I suggest you to go for one also there are few who provide free therapy now and me help column search it out. But do take it as early as possible

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Anonymous

my exam is this monday and tuesday, like 6 exams in all of july…the issue is as much as i want to take it i literally dont have time for it. Even if i take i’ll end up feeling guilty for not studying.

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Anonymous

thanks so much for your words and advice, it means so much

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Anonymous

One session for just an hour and you would feel lighten and energetic trust me and take one

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Anonymous

If I could help you ease your pain even if it is some micro units I will feel really happy.

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Anonymous

Thanks a lot :) truly means so much from someone who has been through a lot and also so much mature

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Anonymous

If the age doesn’t matter can we be friends

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Anonymous

uh yeah sure… Technically we already are haha

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Anonymous

Hey?

Profile picture for Now&Me member @fastandcurious
@fastandcurious

Hey!! Good morning

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Anonymous

Oh is that you?
mornin

Profile picture for Now&Me member @fastandcurious
@fastandcurious

Yes I forgot to put the anonymous

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Anonymous

Ohh okay

Profile picture for Now&Me member @fastandcurious
@fastandcurious

Yeah how are you ???
All good ???

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Anonymous

Idk…
I don’t feel good everyone is so much better than me I’m tired I can’t

Profile picture for Now&Me member @fastandcurious
@fastandcurious

Would you like to explain me better

Profile picture for Now&Me member @priyawahi

Priya Wahi @priyawahi

I am sorry for your loss.

Tell him this:

**You cant expect people to be always around - I may also have some problem na? may have urgent work. I know talking to me may bring the best relief and happiness but what about my life? do you know what I am going through?

I try my best to be around, but I am lost in my thoughts, I need time to heal**

if he continues to talk this way, its time to find another nice friend as I don’t want u have another heart ache after your mom loss

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