I jst feel like my loosing my real energy my laugh my joy. But I know everything will be better. #havefaith #trustGod

Keep that faith ! Everything will be alright.

Lizz

Depression

I loved him we we're together for 6 years and we planned to marry ofc. An incident happened in our family which led us thinking we couldn't marry (we just overthinked the situation its definitely possible) so we thought of parting ways.. few days later he got a new girl. I still love him with all my heart and dream of being with him but acts like he doesn't give a shit. Self respect etc nothing comes in mind i just want him back I've tried my best he doesn't seem to care. I feel lost my bestfriend my life partner my family all at once. the way he says he cannot breakup with his new girl breaks my soul. it's been months and the pain is only getting worse 

"Your purpose in life is not to love yourself but to love being yourself. If you goal is to love yourself, then your focus is directed inward toward yourself, and you end up constantly watching yourself from the outside, disconnected, trying to summon the "correct" feelings towards yourself or fashion yourself into something you can approve of. If your goal is to love being yourself, then your focus is directed outward towards life, on living.."
- unknown

Mental Wellbeing

Do you all think we can start over from a relationship no matter how much we used to stay connected?

Anxiety

देख लेंगे एक दूजे को उसी मैं
तेरे शहर का चाँद मेरे शहर में भी निकलेगा

Long Distance Relationship

The day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruits!

3am Thoughts

My boyfriend keep on talking about his ex. He talk in a way that seems like he is still in love with her. What should I do? It makes me feel insecure. Am I overthinking it or is it normal to feel like that....

I got together with the love of my life at my sisters wedding in May 2019, I’ve known her my whole life (we were babies together, as our mothers are good friends). We also went to high school together and were even in the same class in our final year. We both turned 50 the year we finally got together, our families were ecstatic.
Our problem at the time was that she lived in South Africa and I had moved  to Australia years earlier. I love this woman with everything. She was the shoulder I leaned on for emotional support during my divorce in 2011. Without her, I don’t know what I would have done. I proposed to her in 2019 and she said yes. 

So, I made the decision to move from Perth Australia back to South Africa to be with her…I visited her for a long holiday in October 2019 and made plans to be living with her by early 2020…but then Covid happened.

For three years, we spoke on the telephone every single day for hours. It was always after 12am in the morning on my side, but every minute of her time was worth it to me. I was getting to sleep between 1:30am and 3:00am everyday, but I was ok with that, I adjusted my entire life to suit this schedule. My friends though I was mad.

In December 2021, I was suddenly afforded the chance to move over to finally be with her when I was offered a job on a mine in her town, it was very sudden, the time scales were very short because they needed me to start at the beginning of March 2022. Needless to say, I jumped at the opportunity. Jobs in South Africa are very very scarce.
I sold up what I could in Australia, threw away what I couldn’t sell (thousands of dollars worth of furniture) and gave away the rest of everything I ever owned in life in preparation for the big move. I have nothing left of my life in Australia.

I left behind, my two adult sons, my great job as a surveyor, my friends and my beautiful dog. I climbed on the plane at the end of March 2022, a month later than I should have, and flew over to start my life with her. 
The expense was huge and I admit, it was difficult for me, the move was one of the most stressful times of my life, but one of us had to make the sacrifice and I did it.

Cut to the present! 

I was told yesterday that my move over was too fast for her to comprehend and that I hadn’t given her time to process everything. She said the move was entirely my choice and that she never asked me to do it. She said to me yesterday that when we got together, she was a broken woman and that over the years she has gotten herself into a better position in life, that she was thinking that maybe I was no longer a part of her plans going forward. She said she loved the solitude of being alone with no drama. She says I brought drama because I expected a relationship! Since I’ve arrived here, I’ve tried everything that a normal couple would do, with no luck, she just sits behind her computer and works morning to midnight, every single day. This has been my life since arriving here. 

I must now wait until she feels she might want to continue any kind of relationship, wait until she thinks or feels it’s time to move forward. I’ve already waited since April, it’s now almost January. 

After giving up my entire life in Australia, I stay in her spare room, with all of her junk.

I don’t think I will ever trust another soul again, how could I? I trusted this woman with everything, I never thought I’d be living in this hell. I’m hurting like you won’t believe, I’m beyond humiliated, embarrassed and full of self doubt. 
I have become a broken shell of the man I was just a year ago and I am too embarrassed to talk to anybody about it, because as men we are not expected to show weakness. 

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